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writes:hi me and my GF of which i have a child to, have gone on a break. we were together 18 months prior to the break. all 18 of which i feel i have done no wrong apart from the last few weeks where we have been auguing mostly because i instigate them about wanting to know where i stand. we are still living together for our son.she tells me that she doesnt know why she needs the break, just that she feels things aren't working as they used to. i believe that there is someone else that has shown interest in her, which has left her confused, i have low self esteem as it is but i do think i have more to offer than this other guy, i have asked her is there anyone else, and she says no (of course if there was she would say that)is there any advice on how to win her back. i feel although she is my everything.
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reader, Cj21508  +, writes (26 November 2010):
Oh my goodness, bro, I can completely relate to how you are feeling and the emotions you might be going through with right now. I'm in the same situation as you, things were going perfectly fine, no arguments nothing (we don't have kids), then next thing you know BAM! My girlfriend asks for a break. I was so confused, I'm like wat the hell is going on here? Honestly tho, if she requested a break, there is nothing that you can do except give her the space and time she asked for to think things over. It's going to be hard because you guys live in the same house and to provide for your son.
I have low self esteem too (I'll admit to that) and once my girlfriend said I need a break, I'm thinking there must be a guy out there who's showing more interest in her. But ask yourself this, who knows her better than anyone else? You? Or some other dude? Sometimes, if a girl says no, maybe it does mean no there really isn't a guy out there, she just wants her own space and time. Not all the time is it when a girl says no, it actually means yes. Winning her back right now, might not be the best solution, because she's in that confused state of mind and tryin to win her back will actually push her farther away from you (trust me I tried and it actually pushed my girlfriend farther away, so I'm telling you don't do it.) She knows that you love her very much and that you care about her a lot and that you will always be there for her, but right now, she just wants space.
So all you can really do bro, is give her that space and let time do it's work.
If you have more worries send me a message. I hope this helps you, Good Luck man!
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