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*nynomous
writes:i am so confused and unhappy. i am married and i have 2 kids. im am also in love with a female. my husband is really good to me and our children. we have been together since high school but we only been married for 2 years. i left my husband for this girl. i am crazy in love with her... but i love my husband too. If there was a guy i would be with it would be him... but there is something about this girl that drives me crazy and all i want to do is be with her.. but she is very immature. she doesnt treat me the way he does.. he is truly a gentlemen.. she wants to be a boy but dont know how to treat a lady.. please tell me what to do? need help.
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reader, anynomous +, writes (4 March 2012):
anynomous is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am happy to say I broke up with the girl a year ago.. I cut off all contact with her and me and my husband are back together. Thanks to God for bring in the center of our lives. We are more on love than ever before and my kids are much happier. I feel more complete now that my family is back together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): Who's your priority? Your immature, gender confused, self-centered girl/boy friend who doesn't give a rats ass bout your children or the happiness and security of your children? You and your children love and miss the your him and your life before her. Shouldn't you be concerned more about the emotional wellbeing of you children before romance? Is she really worth throwing you and your childrens towels in for unhappiness and regret. Life is presious to settle short.
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reader, anynomous +, writes (27 November 2010):
anynomous is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes you did help..i guess part of it is excitement. but y do i have strong feelings for her? like right noe i am sitting here thinking of a way to tell her i dont want to be with her,and when i have those thoughts i get scared.. because she gets dramatic or threatens to hurt me if i leave her.. but she dont help me do anything.. hardly interact with my kids or anything.. i see all the signs.. so why is it hard for me to let go?
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reader, DenimandLace44  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Honey, reread your question....surely you know the answer...
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reader, itslikemonpoke +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Er, looks like you've got yourself in a pickle here. Love is...not all about the butterflies, But what is left when the butterflies are gone. There are one of two options you can persue here.
1)Be with the woman you are madly in love with. Let her grow with you. Mature with you. Try to get her to understand how you want to be treated. Do a visual for me. Do you see you lasting long-term with her? Or do you think since you've been with your husband for so long, You just want a little excitement?
2)You have to love your husband. You have children with him, you've been together for a long time. You said so yourself that he's good with children and treats you good. (Referring back to option one,) So why would you give that up, IF this indeed turn out to be a fling?
Hope I helped. :)
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