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writes:recently i have just started a relationship with this guy and things have been going so great these days that i feel as though i am on cloud nine. However my best friend who is a few years younger than me has changed dramatically. And it is starting to bother me.Before i met my boyfriend, me and my bestie used to go out every single weekend partying and generally having the time of our lives. I've always said to my friends that once i am in a relationship i will never ever forget about my friends, as i have done that in the past and later regreted it. So i actually still try to get out every weekend with my friends without my boyfriend, always try to arrange regular lunches with them, basically i am practically bending over backwards to spend time with her so that she doesn't feel as though she's left out. Usually she would be the first one to say lets go out this weekend, but now i rarely ever hear from her, she hardly wants to go out anymore and everytime i suggest going out she will always say to me 'who's going?'Lately i find that if i tell her something about my boyfriend she has to come back at me with something about this new guy she is seeing, which i later found out to be all lies. I don't want her to feel as though she ahs to lie to me about boys just because i have a boyfriend and i don't know what to do or say to her because i know she is lying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): First let me applaud you for making time for your friends. (My friends drop off the face of the earth when they get a bf, so it's nice to read about someone who DOESN'T do this.) That being said your friend probably misses hanging out just the two of you, especially when you were both single. She lies about having a bf because she is jealous that you have one. Try to spend time with her shopping, hanging out, etc. If your bf has any single guy friends, try going on a double date. But all in all, just enjoy your relationship and your friend should come around sooner or later. Don't worry!
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reader, katiekate  +, writes (4 March 2010):
 It sounds to me like she's unhappy with her own love life, and is taking it out on you. She's being immature about the whole situation, but try to be understanding and not take it too personally. Maybe when you were both single, she didn't feel so alone. Even though you are obviously trying to be there for her, I think she is upset about not having a boyfriend of her own. If I were you, I would just try not to talk about your boyfriend at all with her and see if that helps.
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