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writes:Re: Girlfriend hiding bisexual past from boyfriendI discovered that my girlfriend dated another women a year before meeting me. Her email was open on my computer... curiosity got the best of me. I know I was wrong to peek. My girlfriend does not know that I know. Her being bisexual (or just curious) is not a big deal with me. We have many gay/lesbian friends so she knows I have no issues with sexual orientation. My girlfriend still hangs out with her "ex-girlfriend" but I feel she is being faithful to me. So cheating is NOT an issue for me.My concern is that she was not honest with me when talked about our past relationship history. Looking back, I now realize that she has been lying to me whenever our conversations cover those two years of her life.Overall, we have a great relationship, and she is the one for me. How do I talk to her about it? Should I talk to her? I just want her to be honest. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (15 July 2007):
 well as you did go behind her back, you are now not being honest with her so you have done to her wat she has done to you. i think that you need to be open with her and apologise for wat you did but it is a hard thing to do wen something like that is staring you in the face. tell her that you know and ask her why she didnt tell you as it wouldnt bother you. she might have just felt embarrassed or uncomfortable
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reader, kristinakutie +, writes (15 July 2007):
 well, what you do is you DONT tell her that you read her email because then she mite think you have trust issues.. whether they were open on your computer or not.. dont let her know that you read her emails.. ok what you do, is say you have this friend who has a gf and he loves her and he thinks that she is the one, but she has been with other women before him, but she never told him.. and she still hangs out with her ex gf.. and this friend, really wants to be with her, and knows that she is the one, but he still wants to talk about it.. even though its in her past, he still wants to be open and honest about everything that has happened.. even if it may embarrass her now, he still just wants to tlak about it with.. (and ask her if she has any advice for you to give back to your "friend"..)
ok well i hope that that helps you.. good luck
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