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writes:Okay, i'm 18 years old and have been going out with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years now.. i love her too pieces and i believe her too be my world, however, lately i feel distant from her, i feel un-loved like she doesn't care, i think its the fact that she told me that she is going to university, and its 4 - 5 hours away, lately for the last month we have been on and off like a kettle and now its come to the point where i just feel like crying out!! every time i go on a night out with my friends she asks me to cheat on her, obviously i reply no, but it hurts me to hear that come from her.. is she looking for an easy way out, because at the moment my heart doesn't like it.. i'd do anything for that girl, and i used to think she'd think the same, but ever since she told me she's going uni, we've been really off with each other.. if it comes to it, i will leave her, because i cant take the pain im going through much longer :( i know everyone goes through heart brake, but just want peoples opinions in what to do :/
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reader, kay21 +, writes (1 October 2012):
I have been in the exact same situation before and i'm sure plenty others have to. Uni is life changing there are so many things that are going on, new people, stresses etc, I was with my ex for over 3 years and we both went to different Uni's before going I done the same thing as your girlfriend because it helped me get used to not being around him all the time. While we were at Uni we found it hard to visit each other which caused a massive strain on the relationship,we trusted each other but it was the distance eventually things got to much and I decided to end things. MY advice to you is that you both should talk to each other about your worries etc communication is vital for a relationship to work. Most of my friends relationships didn't work out but you never know what is around the corner just prepare yourself in case the worse happens. I hope this helps sorry if it's not what you want to hear but i'm just speaking from experience.
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reader, M_H_F +, writes (30 September 2012):
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I have recently finished university and I can't think of anyone who stayed In there relationships that they arrived at university with. It takes allot of commitment to make a long distance relationship work. Everyone has there own way of dealing with problems and maybe distancing her self from you is her way of reducing or protecting her self from being hurt. But the truth of the matter is that people change allot during there time at university, and most people rather be single. You need to talk to her if there is any chance of you saving your relationship you both need to be fully committed, you can't keep a relationship alive on your own.
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