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writes:My Fiance has just supprised me that She is supposed to join a College for 3 yrs in the US from January 2008.My greatest worry is, I might lose her since she will be away for that long. She might come back married to someone else. Please, what can I do? Can I marry her before she goes, or should I just wait.Please!!! urgently.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (6 October 2007):
 Marrying right away her will not make her faithful or secure her to you necessarily. Are you able to immigrate with her? Would marriage help you immigrate?
Otherwise, I think you need to accept that she is going, and the risk that this is the end of your relationship is high. Not all people will break the engagment, and only you know her and your relationship enough to withstand the distence.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, kenny  +, writes (6 October 2007):
 If you both feel strongly about each other then there is no reason why this long distance relationship can not work. I very much doubt she will come back married to someone else, not if she feels strongly about your relationship. I would not marry her before she goes as i feel you will making the commitment for the wrong reasons. Keep the relationship strong, see her on holidays, and be happy for her becuase at the end of the day she is doing something that is going to make both your lives better.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007): I doubt that she'd come back married to someone else. If she's as committed to your relationship as you are there won't be any thought in her head of going off with anyone but you. Whether you get married now or in 3 years' time won't make any difference one way or the other.
You could marry her now, but what if she wants a divorce when she gets back? Marry in haste, repent at leisure.
Phil
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