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male
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30-35,
*ilveknifex
writes:So basically she said she needs time to figure out what she's going to do about her ex which she went out with 3 years for, she still has feelings for him and she needs to straighten them out, those feelings were getting in the way of are relationship because she just wasn't ready to start a new one, the guy neglects her and treats her like ****, lies to her and just lied to her last night, there's no way she'll go back to him I know it, she said we need a break though because she needs time to herself to figure things out with out the pressure of me, which is fine, she said she just doesn't think she's ready to date, and she wants me to give her space with those types of things, the thing is she is still contacting me, and not ignoring me.I just think she just wants to have fun with me, without the pressure of a relationship between us or talking about her ex, I am in love with this girl, and she already knows, so there is no way I am just going to walk away, she says she doesn't know how long it will take the break up to process if it happens and I was the first one she contacted when she found out her ex was lying to her, this all counts for something, and when i didn't answer her aim she basically sent me 100 aims till i replied, she does still like me, and she wants me and her to work out its just right now she does need to figure out what she is doing, shes completely honest with me all the time, so shes not cheating or just using this to hook back up with her ex, so in this time what can i do, i have never been in this situation i truly love this girl, and will not give up on her, she said im like the perfect guy, shes just surprised she would find someone like me so short after her and her ex'x break up (6 months) and we were going out for 2, she said she doesnt want me to wait around for her, cause she'll feel bad but idc, I truly believe this will work out, she just needs time.So what can i do, what should i do, if i feel this way
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reader, Kepi  +, writes (16 January 2009):
 Give her space, but keep in contact, be a good friend, don't be scared to make contact, but just keep it on a platonic level while still showing her that u care, women are strange beasts and they do a lot of thinking, summat us guys cannot even begin to understand. Be strong, suggest u meet for coffee from time to time, let her see that you care and have feelings but u also want to give her the space she needs. Eventually she will come to a decision...
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (15 January 2009):
 I know what your going through mate, at the begining of December I had the same thing happen to me. One night I get a text from my now ex GF telling me that her ex wants her back. She was with him 6 months ago and still has feelings for him.
I ended it because I didn't want to be messed around. He also treated her badly, kept going hot and cold on her, but she decided to take him back anyway. I regret not putting up a fight as I liked her a lot.
Give her the space she needs, but don't do what I done and give up on her completely, as you will probably regret it as well, but also don't let her play you like a fool.
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