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30-35,
*elphegor
writes:This girl and I were friends for 2 years and a half then suddenly i began to like her, but i was several month of me liking her sometimes but not feeling that i have feelings and i couldn't like understanding whats going on...then i began to like her for real and when i was sure I went and opened up to her. From what i understood she didn't mind giving it a shot then when we talked about it for real she said that it is weird and she is lost, the person that she likes she quickly like him after meeting him not after being friends and stuff and its better if we stay friends. After few weeks she tell me that she want to give it a shot then after 2 days she changes her mind and nothing happened between us.Then after 2 months we made out but I think she considered it as fun because b4 making out she was showing me some signs but after we made-out she showed me it was nothing serious. We kept on playing mind games with each other like we always do, and fighting all the time like we always do, and hitting each other of course not seriously but fooling around.then after another 2 months she started giving me stronger signs and we talked about it she said that sometimes she have feelings for me, sometimes she don't, she likes me but she can't see me more then a friend. how the hell does that make sense? she also said that she hate it when she talk in words about getting close to someone, it should happen alone and if something should happen between us to let it happen alone.then after that in three weeks, i was seeing stronger signs from her and we roughly made out and there was passion and we kept making out for like more then an hour and then after we finished she kept hugging me and kissing me and being next to me...that shows that it wasn't just fun....... then the next day things were awkward between us and it kept like that for the few days after then i knew from her best friend that she couldn't see me more then a friend in her head.what does that mean? let me analyze her character... she is really moody, she changes her mind a lot, she is scared of really loving someone, for example last year she used to like this guy a lot and when he actually started to do some moves she ignored it she told me because she likes the idea of liking him but not being in him its like she lives in the fantasy world... she once told me that she likes a guy to be kind to her and another time that she likes him to be rude she likes emotional drama like they make each other mad and insane and she doesn't value her friend and the people that love her but instead the people who are rude with her...shes frigging confusing me.
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reader, belphegor +, writes (17 February 2010):
belphegor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe is not playing any games on me...Im sure because I know her tooooooo well and she respects me and kinda looks up to me in a way.......she just have FEAR of intimacy like i said she lives in her head
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reader, _Katy_Did_  +, writes (17 February 2010):
 You summed it up yourself:She likes drama! Don't let yourself be part of her game. You'll always be chasing her if you let this go on. Instead, just back off. See what happens. Most likely she'll come chasing back after you because she'll think you don't want her anymore. My advice is to ignore these advances or the whole thing will start again. It's a big trap. Ignore her and eventually it will all go away. You're going to have to stop liking her. It will be tough. But you'll get over it.
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