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writes: My husband came home from work and told me that he was at work and his friend was telling my husband how nice his wifes body was, and I asked my husband what he said to his friend about me, and my husband responded by saying, he didnt want to talk to his friend about that, he didnt want to take the spotlight away from his friend, he said he told his friend I was funny. Should I be upset about this?
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (18 August 2006):
 I totally understand your husband's point of view. You shouldn't be bothered about that at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2006): Good lord, no! Take your ego out of this and quit making it into more that what it really was. When a woman needs 'acceptance' this badly, your rational judgement is giving way to fearful emotions that can cause deep problems within a happy marriage. Laugh it off and show him you have a good sense of humor about all this. Perhaps your husband has respect for you and doesn't like the idea of other guys thinking of you in 'sexualized' way. A lot of men are like this. Actually, I would feel rather complimented if my fellow said he loved me for my funny, bright side rather than how I look. Believe me, over the long run, it will all comes down to the heart and the beauty, that comes from. Let this go. It's simply not worth it...you just need some reassurances..that all.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (18 August 2006):
 I for one would not even have that kind of discussion with another male about my wife. I don't want them to stare at her or look for the things that I have described. I mean I'm sure other men who will look but I wouldn't want to be the one who provokes it. I think you shouldn't be upset by this. I'm sure you're husband thinks you're beautiful and hot, I'm he married you and no man wants a hag for a wife. I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2006): I would say, should you seriously be worried about what another man says and why would be having such a conversation about how hot another man's wife's body is?
I know that I am an attractive female; and I have no doubt whatsoever of my man's faithfulness to me-if he were in this boat...one) he would have said I'm not going to talk about how hot your wife's body is...that's weird
and two) I know he would say I love my girlfriend and she is all I need and want.
Having said that, my boyfriend shared with me how some of the guys at work will see me as his screensaver/desktop and comment on how "Hot" I am. I know this pleases him and I asked him if that was a "normal" thing to do? He said, he would tell someone if they had a good woman or a cutie but would never dare to think to say someone's gf or wife is HOT. He said that he takes no offese as the guys who say this to him, he knows rather well. And one has said Dude, take no offense but your gf is f-ing hot, you are a lucky guy. He said it made him feel good and special that someone else could recognize how lucky he was. I told him so long as no one is wanking off to it...I guess I am okay with me being on your desktop. *shrugs*
I was embarassed by what the BF had to say but I told him; I don't want to know about future convo's.
I think it may have been a "bonding" moment but it is odd that he would say you were funny. I would take being called funny as a compliment but that is because I think my Dad is a hella funny man and I know others think this of him as well-so it's a compliment.
He could have added after that...and has killer legs, has great breasts, has a smoking ass...
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Ask him if he ever "brags" about how you look or does he have family pictures of you on his desk?
Tell him that you are hurt by that declaration and it came across a bit cold and hope he wasn't intending to be.
Talk to him, let him know how you feel.
I am guessing he will reassure you and apologize for any lack of insight.
Don't get hung up on this one failure to brag about you Hun.
*hugs*
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