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writes:ok heres the thing i am in love with this girl and i told her and she said she does have feelings for me but not sure what they are and i've been waiting for ages to get a decent response and still nothing. so anyway i asked her well do i forget about her and move on cause i cant stay around waiting for something thats not going to happen and she keeps sayin she dont know but she said if i did go and find someone else then i couldnt of loved her that much but i am 27 now and i want to settle down and i cant wait around but when i try to talk to her about it all i get is if i love her then i wont have anyone else but she just wont tell me if she wants to be with me or not and its tearing me up cause now i dont know what to do
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reader, Eikhas  +, writes (25 October 2008):
Listen man
Ive had the EXACT same problem.
With me I am alot younger than you. but in the same boat.
I have wanted the same girl all my life sence i met er but the 2 times in 7 years ive told her it was the same thing.
What ive recently come to terms with is. that you cannot keep wasting your time.
what you have to do is, and this is just a suggestion.
Sit her down when you both have some time on your hands and you dont have to worry about anything so you can both think clear.
And have a serious conversation.
something like, I have been crazy about you for so long, and you know this. but i cannot save my love for you when it stands un-returned.
And here is the big part. which i think you should seriously consider because i am too.
Tell her that it is going to continue like this. with you not knowing how you feel then, i feel that i need to take some time away from you. so that i can get over you.
Let her know right away that this is not forever just long enough so that you can see her differently.
and make sure she understands.
i have been planning on doing this but im waiting for the right time to bring it up. and knowing her she is not going to take it the right way to begin with.
but mabey if you do this, the time you spend away from her will help her realize what she is missing. if not then be friends. and try to move on.
i have tryed numerous time to get over my girl but i just cant unless i spend time away from her, so that i do not think about her so much.
take this to heart bud, and really consider things.
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reader, lilmizagony +, writes (12 September 2007):
is she younger then you? because it seems like shes messing you around. just say to her look i really like you and you know that because iv hold you but meet me half way here what do you want or something like that i mean it sounds like you have liked this girl for quiet a while now and she says if you love someone you wouldt want anyone else which is right but whats the point in loving someone who doest really love you i mean she might but it doest seem that way i would move on i think shes confussed about what she wants you deserve better hunni xx hope that helps
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reader, L.O.S.E.R.  +, writes (12 September 2007):
 Well how old is she?Guess I agree that if you love someone you can't be with anyone else but then again can you really LOVE a person you've never been in relationship with...How long has it been since you toled her what you feel?Are you good friends or you just know each other?Where do you know her from?Did she have someone recently?She must have a reasons for not wanting to be with you (yet) but out of your question I just cant figure any of them out.
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