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writes:So I've been dating this lovely girl for 2 months now. she's so wonderful and i absolutely adore her. But there's one small,superficial issue that i hate myself for caring so much about. The girl's got some thin hair and i can see some of her scalp through spots in it,it kind of weirds me out. But i can deal with that. The real issue is, if I stay with her for a long time (which doesnt seem that impossible) that she might go bald. or that the spots might fully uncover. what do?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 April 2012):
 Well, tons of women do get thinner hair as they grow older, same as with guys. So to be fair here, you probably are going to lose your hair at some point (most men I know of get a moon sooner or later). Women put up with it. So can men. Because, all in all, it really doesn't matter so much. It probably weirds you out now because you're not used to seeing it, but you'll grow accustomed to it.
As for this girl.. 2 months really isn't enough to predict whether you will stay with her until you are both 50 and thin haired/bald or not. So I say that for the time being just go with it as long as you enjoy her company, and worry about a potential baldness when things actually start to get serious.
You should also pay a visit to her mother. If the mother is bald then there you go. Your girl will get bald as well, in all likelihood. If the mother still has hair then your girl will probably keep hers as well.
But like I said, in the big picture of things this will appear as a small problem, or not a problem at all. Don't worry about 20 or 10 years from now though, enjoy the here and now. You never know what the future might bring, and worrying about her growing bald is just as pointless as worrying about when you will die. You can't predict it, you can't prepare for it, and you don't know when or how it will happen (or even if, in her case). For all you know she'll get cancer two years from now (God forbid) and lose it all anyway. For all you know you'll go blind from an accident and wont see her hair anyway. You just never know with life and it becomes pointless to worry so much.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 April 2012):
 What you're describing sounds more like she has baby fine hair. It's normal to see her scalp in some places in people with very fine hair. I wouldn't bring it up just yet. If you're together for a long time, she can start using volumizing products and scalp stimulating things. At your age it's HIGHLY unlikely she's going bald.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 April 2012):
 I'm guessing she has light and very fine hair. And I doubt she will go bald.
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female
reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 April 2012):
 Send her to see a doctor. An endocrinologist, or a dermatologist . It's not normal to have bald spots at 16 !
Except for rare cases of idiopathic alopecia ( baldness with no specific case ) it's generally a symptom of something else going on. From severe stress to anemia to thyroid malfunctions etc.etc.
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (12 April 2012):
 If that were really an issue, most women would abandon their boyfriends and husbands because male pattern baldness is very common and after middle age, very few men have luxurious locks of hair. So I agree with you that it IS a superficial thing and you should put it out of your mind if you really love her. If not, leave her now instead of dumping her later when (if) she does go bald. That would be an unbelievably cruel thing to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2012): If you truly love her then you will stay with her regardless if she becomes completely hairless. I suggest she goes to the doctors because there might be some serious health problems going on. Like cancer or alopecia.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2012): If she wears extensions tell her to stop as they pull the hair out
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (12 April 2012):
 Wigs! or she can show of the lovely shape of her head and shave what doesnt fall out, some men find that really sexy.
BUT, you are still young, if you believe the love you feel is going to grow stronger, and stronger, so that you are both together for a very long time, it is highly unlikely a little thing like a bald spot will bother you so much.
Just ask any woman you know whose husband no longer has thick lush locks!
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