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writes:me and my girlfriend at the time had our first fallout in our 9 month relationship because i started to mention things about our future as a couple. the only reason i said those things was because she couldn't see me as much as she could cause of her course work. i had a thyroid problem that wasn't getting treated so i guess that made me paranoid and therefore say those things. An awkward tension started to come in between us and we sat down and talked and decided to have a think about what we wanted. A week later she broke up with me because she didn't see a future, that it was only a temporary thing. i mean we are young, 18 years old but i didn't mean to say the things i said nor did i want them, we are really young, i only said it cause my thyroid was making me feel weird. once we broke up we have literally became strangers, when we were giving each other our stuff back i gave her a hand written letter and memories like, photos, her mix tape she gave me, our first date cinema ticket, the valentines candles that were on the table when i cooked her a meal. the letter said everything, how much i loved her, that i was sorry, the memories of us about how much they meant to me and that i didn't want them to go for good. At the end of the letter i asked if we could try again. when we exchanged our stuff in person, she seemed really awkward and quite sad. the next day i asked her if she read it and she replied, yes but its not changing anything. since then we've been arguing cause i wanted to talk in person to clear my head and sort thing but she didn't want to cause i guess she thought either, we'd get into an argument or that when she sees me in person, her reaction to things changes. when she goes out at night with her pals she tweets that she had a good night out and that she had guys hitting on her and she enjoyed it. the first week since we broke up she posted 'tonight was great fun, had a few guys hitting on me though, this is a total new experience for me... i liked it.'. we've been apart for 3 week, i still love her and miss her, but we had a really big argument and she told me to leave her alone. she has no feeling towards me now cause i've acted childish through the whole break up and that i've hardly gave her room to breathe or think. what should i do? should i give her space and time and hope she might come around or just forget her? any other thoughts as well cause i'm honestly lost. thanks for taking your time to read this if you have
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (23 April 2013):
Forget about her. Learn a lesson here: acting the way you did will turn a girl off so much that she'll wish she had never met you. Women (possibly men as well) hate seeing someone in such a pathetic spot. Doing so ruined any chance you had with her.
Unfollow/friend/block her phone #/etc. Don't talk to her, don't wonder about her, nothing.
A second lesson to learn is that there's most likely nothing wrong with you, so don't let this hurt your self esteem. Some people are just not good for each other.
It'll hurt for awhile, but if you do like I said and cut all contact with her you'll be fine.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (23 April 2013):
 I think you should just forget about her and move on I'm afraid. She is clearly enjoying being single and doesnt want to get back with you, so you are going to have to let her go.
In time you will feel better about this and it wont hurt so much, just be patient and dont worry if you feel sad for a while - that is normal.
Delete her off twitter and make sure you cant see her on Facebook or anything like that as it will make it harder for you to see her enjoying her single life - what you need is no contact for a few months to allow yourself to get over her.
She is moving on and is enjoying her new single life, so its time for you to move on as well.
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