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writes:I have been with my Gf for 1year and 6months. We both gave our virginity to each other. However, when we first began to go out she told me about her past she hadnt dun much. All she did was kiss and have dry sex. But incomparison to me that was alot, as she was my first gf and I have only kissed one girl before her. But my problem is that I keep thinkin about her past n comparing to my own n feel like I have missed out. i know it was my own fault as Ive never had any self confidence. I keep thinkin I wish i went out n got more experienced. The thing is i dnt want to let my gf go as we do love each other. I also keep wanting to no about the guys in her past, as she had a fling with this one guy and when I asked her who it was she wouldn't tell me but that wwas bout 9months ago. Help me someone.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (23 July 2008):
 hrm the first part we will miss but the rest of what phil says is right, we all have pasts some are honest others hide it, but she has told you everything in the hope that their is no secrets and that the past is the past and she is now with you for the future. you can keep living in the past but your gonna miss on whats going on right now..and worse your gonna loose a future you started looking at..you have to change the ways of your thinking or you are heading for a selfdestruct mission..some guys go out with one girl and she has had 20 partners and they have had one! and they can live with that so im pretty sure if you change your thoughts you can live with her past.. in the end its down to you change or move on.. best wishes aphex xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): You need help alright. I assume you didn't do too well at your written English exams when you were at school? If there was a texting exam you'd get a diploma, maybe even a place at Oxford or Cambridge I dare say.
Anyway, her past is her past, and there's nothing you can do to change it. You can't change your past either, so you either live with that or you change her for another model who has never been out with anyone before.
Trust me, you don't want to know who the other bloke was - he's probably a George Clooney lookalike, or your worst enemy or nightmare, and has a huge dick to match his ego and personality.
If you can't cope with her past you don't have a future, and it really is as simple as that. So take an old man's advice, forget about her past and concentrate on your future. The past is one thing that cannot under any circumstances be changed by anyone. The future is entirely in your hands and you can shape it.
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