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writes:I think i sound petty but not sure. Basically my birthday just went couple of weeks back. My Gf couldnt be there as she was working and because of her fam (im in a long distance relationship). I told her i completely understand and she kept saying that she wanted to be there. But for some reason I feel a bit crap because on her birthday i did so much for her as in booked a hotel, surprise cake, nice presents and a meal. I dont really expect it in return i just wanted her to be happy on her 21st. For some reason a part of me feels like I wish she made that effort for me. I hate feeling like this i feel really petty but at the same time I feel crap like ive done all that for her and on my bday nothing happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): I completely understand. My birthday is in 2 days and I already know that my boyfriend isn't doing anything for me. This is the 4th year in a row. I always try to make his birthday great. His last birthday I spent $200 on him. (His birthday is a month before christmas and I dropped $900 on him for christmas). I even had an ice cream cake made which cost $40. I haven't had a cake since I was 15 (i'm about to be 19) and the time before that I was 8 he knows how important that is to me and I would be happy if he went to the store and bought cake mix and made a cake at his moms and brought it home but I know he wont.Its not being petty its being hurt because you feel that they dont care as much as you. I mentioned it to my bf and all he said was I never have any money around your birthday but he has had $400 extra dollars this month and he can never figure out where all his money goes.I wish you the best of luck with this problem. Maybe if you talk to her about it she will see how much see hurt you and next year will be different.
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