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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey guys. I'm gonna keep it simple, just need some advice. Basically, I've really liked this girl for a while now, and I told her last weekend how I felt. I knew she had a boyfriend, but I just needed her to know I felt so I could get over her when she rejected me. But she said that she liked me too, and that she wasn't happy being with her boyfriend. She also said however that she wasn't sure whether she'd do anything with me because she wouldn't want to ruin anything.I made the decision not to ask her or push it any further whilst she was still with her boyfriend, and I'd want her to stay with her boyfriend if he made her happy. She's spent the past week however going into real detail with me about how she's going to break up with him, and gets irritated when he doesn't show any interest in her worries towards their relationship. She's also been asking me for advice on what to do (not attempting to sway anything, I just keep saying if you're worried talk to him, just do whatever makes you happy). Despite saying this however, theres no sign she'll actually break up with him. So I'm not entirely sure what to do. Though I still wouldn't dream of doing anything whilst she was still with her boyfriend, I don't know whether I should be fighting for her or whether I should back off completely, and use the summer break to move on with my own life. I do really like her, but I'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to relationships and I'm not sure what my boundaries are, and whether you fight for someone in this situation or whether you don't.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 Well it kinda sounds like she might of been thinking of breaking up with her bf before you announced that you had feelings for her. She can't be happy with him as she has stated to you " she gets irrated that he never shows any intrest in her worries" so it could suggest that there relotionship might of been going down hill for a while now. Do not feel in no way bad if they do happen to break up as i am sure she has thought things through and is happy with her decisions, i think that you are also very good at not doing anything with her while she is with her bf even tho you have mutual feelings for eachother as most boys wouldnt think about the other half. At the moment i would to continue as you are doing now and support if she does want to break up with him and give her addvice but in no way lead her on if that kinda makes sense. If she does break up with him and she wants to go out with you i suggest you give it a few weeks or even a month or so just to let everything settle before you go out with her. If she doesnt break up with him however just carry on being a good friend to her and even if you do have feelings for her keep your options open becasue you never know who might come along into your life. x
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