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writes:Some 7 months ago I was having serious problems with my girlfriend and met this gorgeus super sweet girl. Our connection was instant, and we started hanging out a lot. All of a sudden she tried to kiss me, opening a Pandora box. It was difficult to resist the attraction, but luckily she started dating an older guy (14 years older) before we did anything serious. I say luckily because this gave me freedom to reassess my relationship and finish it for the right reasons. Also, since she was looking for an apartment at the time, she moved in with him.Right now, the circumstances we're in allow us to see one another almost every day and we hang out quite a lot. In our conversations, we both acknowledge that attraction is still there, and neither discards the possibility of a relationship in the future.The situation is pretty safe because both of us say that for the moment it would a mistake doing anything. But I worry slightly about the future because soon I will be over my ex and in the market again. When that time comes, I fear I might fall for her completely and she'll still be with him. So, do you guys think she's willfully keeping me in the hook? Should I try to drive her out of my head?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your quick reply, man, just a few pointers:
It took me over 2 months to be absolutely sure that I wanted to separate from my ex, and I am happy that my lost chance wasn't around to mix up my decision. It was a very long relationship and even now I am not ready for a new one. I'm not even sure this girl right for me. I just want to know if there is any sense in maybe waiting around, probably not...
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reader, escribanus  +, writes (20 September 2010):
 You are a fool, you had problems with your ex, so it was a matter of making the breaking legal. You found the perfect girl for you and you let another guy to take her, just because you wasn't sure. Dear friend happiness do not give second chances so easily.
Once upon a time I was in a similar sittuation, but I just drop the girl that makes me unhappy and took the girl of my dreams. Now I'm a happy man, if i've done like you today I would be regreting my lack of courage and desicion.
My advice, stop torturing you. Take the lesson, look for another girlfrind, try to put some distance between you and your lost chance (to avoid becoming a eunucus bestfriend)and pray for that other guy to break with her so you can act swiftly.
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