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writes:Women are very confusing to meMy friend has been telling me I'm very sweet lately when we talk or text. Last time I texted her , she told me I'm sweet like 4 times. I know she is going through a tough time but still.She talks to me when I'm going through a tough time which usually always (I never go to her with my problems, she comes to me and INSISTS I tell her).I do the same for her. I'm always concerned about her because she takes so much. I can see it in her eyes. I got her to admit it to herself at one point.Anyway, when I hear a girl say "sweet" it's usually bad so I'm not too fond of being told that. I don't know if she is telling me that to tell me I'm I'm just a friend, which makes no sense because I've been nothing but a friend to her. I'm crazy about her, but she has a boyfriend so I keep my distance. I haven't even told her I like her. (with good reason) I'm just a friend to her like she says she is to me.Why then does she keep telling me I'm sweet?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2014): Women have ways of being polite, but making a point. Push the wrong button, and you'll get a scolding. She is politely drawing a boundary line; and hearing how "sweet" it is seems to be working.
She is fortunate to have you around; just respect the fact she has a boyfriend, and she apparently cares for the both you.
She loves him as her partner, you as a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI like to think it's verbal affection. I hope so because it does feel like she is rubbing the whole friend zone thing in, consistently telling me she's a friend and I'm her friend. Saying I'm sweet or what I say is sweet. This is only recently and I have backed off a lot. I use to stare at her often. Always looking for an excuse to be around her. Complimenting her and try to assist her. I wasn't sweet then. Now I do nothing special and I'm sweet.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (20 January 2014):
 It's a form of endearment to a dear friend. I say this to both male and female friends of mine, and it's my way of showing my appreciation for their presence in my life. She is saying it to show verbal affection towards you. It's like hugging you without actually doing it. Friendship is the foundation to a great and lasting relationship. Who knows what could happen in the future?
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reader, llifton +, writes (20 January 2014):
 Women are perceptive. It's white possible she's noticed that you have feelings for her, despite trying to conceal them. so perhaps she is gently reminding you again. Not to be hurtful, but just to make sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know it is commonly a friend zone response. I accepted that a long time ago, hard as it is. It's only recently she keeps telling me that. I don't say anything special. I'm not her only guy friend .
Why continuously rub it in my face as if I didn't get the message 2 years ago.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2014): I think you're getting the message. "You're sweet!"
Your kindness and support is appreciated. You're a good friend. That's it. It's her pet-response. It covers each good deed and kind word. It also keeps things at a comfortable distance, and reminds you she is accepting it only the in context of friendship. It's a "friend-zone" response.
When a female's response is generic and repetitive; it is a polite way of saying don't go overboard. It got your attention.
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