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writes: In the past 3 months I got back from Iraq and have been "dating" a girl that I have known for years since high school. Currently both of us are 24 and just trying to see how this relationship could work out. I'm new to relationships on a recent aspect and was concerned when I saw on her dresser pictures of her ex-boyfriend in a small ladder display of like 12 pictures of him and her. Note that this is the first time I've seen this in 3 months we have "been together" and was wondering should I be concerned She's not a very open girl and has been having dificulties showing her affection, so was just wanting a few outside opinions thanks! Let me know if you need more details to help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2006): Great to hear! Good Luck with it all.
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reader, colonel24 +, writes (6 January 2006):
colonel24 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your answers, the day after I had posted this question the pictures completely dissapered with out confrontation so maybe for the better, seems like in the past couple days shes opened up more, and are time together has been better spent, Thanks again, any follow up answers are welcome I appreciate your time! THANK YOU!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2006): I have been in a similar situation and I agree, it is a bit odd, I take down pictures of ex boyfriends as soon as the relationship ends, but there may be a really simple, reasonable answer behind it. Though a dozen does sound a too many even when you are dating let alone broken up!
The best way to approach it, is just stay really calm and carefully explain that the pictures make you feel a little uncomfortable and was there a particular reason she kept them? A lot of girls will often keep a picture of her with her date from her prom or deb ball, even if the guy is long gone. But that may have been a really wonderful night in her life that she wants to remember. The ex may have little do with it, compared to the dress!
The key is to listen to what she says and let her then decide what to do with them. The main thing is to make your intentions clear and then say to her, "look what you do with them is up to you but I wanted to let you know how I felt"
See what she does then. If they remain, perhaps its time to consider some other options but for the moment I would just make your feelings known to her and see how she reacts. It will also give you a good indication of her consideration to your feelings.
Hope this helps you.
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reader, SKYRAIDER_82 +, writes (4 January 2006):
Huge red flag a female who is not open and has difficulty showing affection. Red flag, her pictures of her ex on the dresser. Time to fish or cut bait. There is something going on and you need to find out now. She is either hiding something or is a cold fish, either way, it is best to cut your losses now, which are minimal at 3 months and start dating.
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reader, mystify +, writes (4 January 2006):
 maybe she just hasnt got round to taking them down yet, if you confront her and she dosent take them down then id be concerned
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (4 January 2006):
 Dearie, maybe u should ask her about it and see what happens.
Goodluck
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reader, colonel24 +, writes (4 January 2006):
colonel24 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd is it worth confronting her?
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