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writes:Hi,I had been in a 1-year relationship with a girl, when we first started, she was undemanding and understanding.. that's what I like about her, she never made sudden accusations of me not caring or loving her.Lately things changed, we would be chatting happily when suddenly she will go quiet and when I asked her, she said she gets the feeling that I not as caring, or not that close to her anymore... I tried to discuss with her to pinpoint why, maybe it's my speech or manner, but all she said is she does not know the cause, but she can feel it. This happened several times and each time it would be the same pattern..I'm lost now... each time it happens, it makes me confused as hell, I am sure she has her side of the story but I am not getting it from her as all she does is keep quiet or say she doesn't know what is the cause.. what can I do in this situation? Reply to this Question
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (16 October 2008):
 Hi Hunny
If you believe nothing has changed then maybe she is feeling a little down at this moment, When we start off in a relationship we go all out to show extra affection this can sometimes change as we get used to that person, Without us realising it hunny and Im not talking unrealistic change here Im talking normal, Your comfortable and content..Your g/f at this moment may need a little T.L.C she may just be feeling deflated within herself and is looking for some hugs and love but not explaining it because sometimes us women think you men can read minds hunny, Its not a bad thing but if she is low she may be thinking well its obvious im not feeling to good why wont he do something to reasure me make me feel better..But you havent a clue what she is thinking unless she actally lets you know. Try maybe a special evening with candles and massage and concentrate on her giving her lots of love and see if she relaxes with this and feels better. It may not have anything at all to do with you it may be just the way she feels so you being the closest person to her gets the bad vibe, From what you have said this is out of Character so it does point at the fact she is at this moment not feeling herself and a little down...I hope this helps love, goodluck TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, loveshercola  +, writes (16 October 2008):
You should read my question - when I read yours I almost wondered if you are the guy I'm dealing with! LOL
I do make accusations that he doesn't care or love me like he says he does because he doesn't express it as much as he used to, he changed the pet name he used to call me, and his replies to me via text message are a lot more short and blunt than they were before. Does any of this correlate with you?
She might be really afraid to tell you how she feels for fear you'll really think she's making accusations or is paranoid and will leave her.
At least that's how I feel. :)
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