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writes:Hi I've just cone back from school and last lesson I was a bit awkward because over the holidays I discovered I was gay and I'm not sure how I should act around my friends (that are straight guys) and my classes because my personality has sort of changed. At the last lesson of the day one of my good friend (girl) noticed I was wierd in the lesson so she asked me what I wrote on my hand(I wrote G/H wich means Gay/Homosexual) and I said I was rhinking about a secret and just wrote it down I didn't mean to tell her but it slipped out and there was nothing u could do she was going to bug me all day+night so I told her but she was supportive the thing is I'm not sure what should I tell her now because she's a gossiper and I'm afraid if she will tell everyone when I'm I'll. What Should I Do Leave it and trust her or tell her it was a prank? what do you think I should do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): You need to spend more time figuring out who you are. If you change who you are just by admitting to yourself that you are gay then something isn't right. From this I would say you are not ready to come out. I would tell her it was a joke and spend some quality time alone figuring yourself out. This isn't easy. So much of the gay community expects you to fit a gay mold and that just isn't the way it should be. Just because you are gay doesn't make your personality change you need to make for yourself who you are. Only come out when you know who you are and your personality is concrete enough to not be shaped by societal expectations.
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reader, MyDestiny  +, writes (21 April 2010):
 Okay yes, just be yourself. You told your friend, lets just hope shes close enough not to tell anyone your secret, cause frankly it isn't any of her business to tell. You're gay, and that's great, there's nothing wrong with that. And you don;t have to tell anyone if you don't want to. It's all on you, you can come out whenever you're ready. But never feel pressured to do so. And one last thing, i really had trouble with that first answer below. YOUR SEXUALITY IS NOT A CHOICE. I thought that was an absurd thing to say. But I'm not gonna say anything more on it though since Dekten already discussed this. Anyway buddy,i wish you good luck. Go out, have fun, and enjoy your life.
-A.E
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reader, Dekten  +, writes (19 April 2010):
What you should do is be honest with yourself and with others. It's not that big a deal.
You shouldn't act differently either, just be the person you always were... except that you won't have a silly secret.
One thing: it's not a lifestyle CHOICE. Or a choice at all. You cannot choose your sexual preference. Heck, if it were possible, lots of guys would change from hetero to homo. It makes life much easier :-)
Just be yourself. It's OK.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): being homosexual isnt something to be ashamed off, its a lifestyle choicewhich is widely respected. the fact that your being true to yourself will bring respect. and if anyone decides to be immature, you can just rise above it.. since your brave enough too admit how you feel! and you never know... you might find yourself a nice boyfriend! be happy :-) and i wish you all the best, update us on how you get on
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