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writes:Very recently, I met a girl through a professional social network (weird, I know!). We started chatting, texting every other day, till we decided to meet. After the first meeting, I made it clear that I was interested in her romantically. (I said it point blank.)We kept chatting, navigating the flirty/friendly territories, and have met a few other times. Last Sunday, I invited her to my place after we hung out parts of the afternoon. I couldn't make a move for the following reason: although she can be flirty when we text/chat (still, she is verbally very subtle), she is not as flirty in real life. The gap between the two behaviors somehow threw me off. Last week, she sent me an cute/sexy picture of her with just her bra on... I imagine one would not send that to a person they have no romantic and/or sexual interest in.I am a bit older than her. (She is 26, I'm 30.)To women: would you send queues and a picture to a guy you have no interest in other than getting along really well? I want to make a move, but recent burns have made me very cautious.To all: ever been in similar situations? Is she just playing me/ having fun? The very subtle flirts + the lack of explicit 'stop it' (heck, she coulda said she was not interested in me that way) + the intimate picture confuse me.
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reader, R1  +, writes (22 May 2013):
 she did seem a bit dodgy. Nice girls don't send slutty photos! Use it as a life lesson, you will meet someone right for you soon :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNew development! 'yay, so exciting' - which shows that my gut feeling wasn't wrong. She went dark last Saturday, for no reason. After a text and an 'are you okay?' email, she came back to me tonight to say: "...I have been wrongfully leading you on these past weeks. You were right to point out that I was in a relationship.." (I had asked if she was seeing anybody early on, and she said no.)
What the hell is wrong with her?! Being flirty, chatting every day, sending picture, coming to my place, etc. What kind of game was she playing??
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all. I do realize that I should make a move, and that the question may sound a bit silly and call for an obvious answer. Like you have said, she might feel more comfortable to flirt over texts/IMs than in real life. Definitely, this is something that I have troubles registering.
I'm not looking just for sex, we connect on a bunch of levels, and if I go anywhere with her, I'd love for it to be a real relationship.
Thanks for your answers :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2013): You still didn't get it?! She sent you pictures practically undressed. She came to your appartment, she went on dates with you knowing you are romantically interested in her. She flirts with you via texts. What more signs do you need?
I m shy when it comes to flirting and could flirt via texts and be also more friends like in person. But no girl would go on a dates with a guy and to his appartment knowing about guy intentions and having no desire to be with him romantically. Your age difference doesn't really exist, I don't even know why you mentioned it. Especially at your age, 4 age difference is nothing.
With that said, because you still didn't make a move shows her that are more interested in something else rather than only sex, which is a good thing.
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reader, R1 +, writes (14 May 2013):
She isn't going to send a pic of herself in her bra to someone she wants to be just friends with is she! That kind of behaviour is a bit full on though and not really leading towards a relationship. Are you just looking for sex? Is the flirting very sexual?
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