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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid:I'm just your average 18 year old guy i have a beautiful G/F. Well i'm goign straight to the point. You see last night my G/F and our former friend told in front of everyone (we had like 8 ppl in the chat)that she liked him...although i thought it was a lie, it was true she admitted it to me, but then she tells me that it was before we went out. I didn't tell her but i know i have a good memory before he was ever in the picture me and her went out. So now i know it can be a lie because like i said before he was even added to msn we WERE going out i don't know anymore. But as soon as i knew that, it's torn me to shreds, i mean 'cuz she was like so open with him she would start any random msn convo, but last night they were arguing because he never liked my G/F's father saying that she shouldn't obey him (she's 17).Well until things got outta hand so i deleted him from the list although because of that she's not allowed to use msn at the moment. I found out her account password if she was doing some sort of flirt with him before. I read all her past messages, but i read it all i didn't see any type of flirting in none of those comments yet she was so open with him. I feel uneeded i feel as if i was not getting enough affection nor attention, although she and he told me b4 that he likes her as a sister and she said that she liked him as a brother.I read her messages they did chat, but it was not in a flirty way, he would always say i love you sissy, then she said i love you bro? o.o I didn't see any type of attraction to him but the fact she used to chat with him so much, it made me feel sorta left out. I know she loves me but i need help advice please. I did admit to my G/F that i liked his ex which makes us in a way of being "even" but what she described to me wasn't true she said "it's true there was a time when i liked him but it was before we went out". I didn't believe her although i was "pissed". I didn't say but as now as i realize it, it wasn't the way she thought it was or was she lying to me? Because we met waaaaaaaay before she met him or he decided to be in the picture. I trust her but i don't know what to do, they don't talk anymore, he left so he won't be bothering, but he so disgusting, he even told his ex (our BFF) to get cancer again and to die... i need advice please, sorry i made this so long.Thanks.
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reader, clobear  +, writes (12 April 2008):
 well let me start by saying, you shouldnt have said u liked the lads ex, two wrongs dont make a right. and if you dont think he will be bothering you 2 again then why not just put it in the past. if you didn't find any evidence then you cant accuse her of anything. so what if they were close lads and girls can be mates without doing anything. you should both just sit down and chat about it, tell her how you feel and say you want to start from fresh. i know what you mean about feeling left out, and its not nice, but are they leaving you out or are you not joining in?
be careful what you do coz if you decide to split up, sooner or later you might wish you hadnt and you might begin to think, what if, and thats not a good place to be.
good luck hope it works out, xxxxxxx
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