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36-40,
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writes:Ok, so I am friends with this woman, we have been acquaintances for a while but really only got to know one another out of work the past 6 months or so. I'm the mean time she's gone through a break up with her ex and a lot of stuff - fair dos. We went out once just for a drink, my idea, rather awkward as we'd only started getting to know one another. I started falling for her, we started flirting, there were lunch break calls (work together byt different offices), early morning and late evening texts, texts always from her personal mobile always used to be work one. Weekend calls, then she told me to call her.....but didn't pick up?She listens and remembers everything I do or say, its like she reads it off a list. She calls me about the strangest things but then when I started to really get involved she didn't call me. There was talk about moving away together, meeting the parents and then it sort of slowed down a bit when I realised I liked her. Within a week she had told me to take her out twice, so I did she agreed - there was no mention of date - I'm just at the friend stage even though I like her she's a lot older than me and I want to get to know her hence why I did want to spend time with her. Before that she said she'd text me, then she didn't - why say it then don't do it? I didn't pressure her or anything I left it and didn't call her or text. She told me she'd phone me the day we were due to go out - she didn't so I called her. She told me she wasn't well so I offered to rearrange. She said she'd see how she felt and give me a bell. She text instead saying how sorry she was but could we rearrange...then asked me not to hate her. So she flaked but 99.9% of me thinks its a lie. I just said I hoped she felt better soon and I've heard nothing since, this was 2 days ago.She doesn't know I like her, although I think I've made it obvious but honestly I thought a part of her liked me, especially when she told me what she wore to bed and constantly sticking up for me, bigging me up and laughing at everything I say. We aren't even that close she knows I'm gay, likewise me with her. Please please please god someone explain to me what's happening?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2019): My opinion only sweetie and others may totally disagree and they have every right to if they wish: my take is she enjoys the friendship .. the attention .. and likes the knowledge you like her . She confused and feeling neglected that doesn't make her bad person. But it does mean she may be leading you on a false path hence her distancing herself lately . I would be open enough to say hey you know what maybe we could met soon for coffee and be upfront when face to face that you like her but if she only wanting friendship that's fine too .If you feel you could be a friend only that's up to you .. if you think and think no no to awkward . Then leave her to distance herself and fill your time with other things. I would chalk it up to her just being confused over stuff nothing more .Hope this helps . You sound a very nice girl
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reader, reniebot  +, writes (10 January 2019):
She knows that you like her. Talking about what one wears to bed leaves no room for interpretation. (Let alone talking about running away together and meeting parents.). She’s probably interested too, but you shouldn’t waste anymore of your time or emotion on her. Let’s assume you made plans with a platonic friend, but got sick. Wouldn’t you contact your friend to say so as soon as possible? Would you really wait to tell your friend the very last minute that you were canceling? I doubt it because you sound like a considerate person.Ugh, and her please don’t hate me routine reeks of dramatics and narcissism. She knows how inconsiderate she is and wants you to accept it and fawn all over her anyway.You deserve better than this. My advice is to distance yourself from her.
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