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writes: hi, my girlfriend recently returned from a year away visisting her dad in australia we were together for around 9 months and at the time both agreed that we would end the relationship when she left.we kept in touch and now she has returned were an item again and have both realised how much we still love each other. prloblem is when she was away she fell in love with someone else and would like to return to 'see her family'she would like to go back for 3months alone, and expects me to wait around for her, am i being unfair in expressing an unhappiness in this?how can i make her see my point of view?should i be worried about this other guy?help please!!
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reader, shania  +, writes (28 February 2006):
 No, you are not being unfair,your girlfriend decided to visit her family for a whole year...then decided to come back and make another go of the relationship.Now she has dropped a bombshell,and has told you that she has fallen in love with someone else....but on her terms...your supposed to wait for her again...while she swans off to Austrailia for another 3 months and also to see her other lover!...what is she playing at? You have every right to be unhappy....it does sound like she is playing with your feelings,and thats not fair on you.My guess is...she cant make her mind up,whether she wants you or this other man...but she cannot have both.I think what you should do is tell her that you are not going to play second fiddle to this other bloke and that if she does decide to go back to Austrailia....your not going to be there when she gets back....why should you? You have a life as well.Its not the ideal relationship that you want...and why should you settle for second best?
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reader, Sexybum +, writes (28 February 2006):
 I would be worried, why does she want to go alone. Have you asked her if you can come? If so what did she say? It would be interesting to know if she puts up resistance to you coming with her and what her reasons for that resistance would be.
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