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writes:After a Two and a half month relationship with my girlfriend she has dumped me by text, no explanation either just You're dumped in capital letters and no calls and I can't get hold of her it happened last night and we were going fine then this happens I really need some help as she comes over to her dads at the weekend cos he lives local to where I work so I was wondering should I pay her a visit and ask for some answers ?
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reader, Notayup  +, writes (22 December 2007):
Don't feel too bad the same thing happened to me recently. I sent her a Christman card today thanking her for the time we had together hoping after she received it she might gather the courage to give me an explanation. After reading some of the other replies I wish I hadn't wasted my time. Bottom line is, I guess it was better to find out now as it has really shown me what type of person she is....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): Don't feel too bad the same thing happened to me recently. I sent her a Christman card today thanking her for the time we had together hoping after she received it she might gather the courage to give me an explanation. After reading some of the other replies I wish I hadn't wasted my time. Bottom line is, I guess it was better to find out now as it has really shown me what type of person she is....
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): You deserve an explanation as to why she has dumped you. There has got to be a reason. Did she cheat? Did she get bored? Go and visit her dad's without telling her. If you tell her she's bound to cancel to avoid you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): I guess you could, but if you want to do the "right" thing then NO.
You think you have it bad. My ex dumped me after 2 years with no explanation. I was shocked. But I never asked for an answer. I was too proud. Yeah I cried. But I didn't feel like calling him and begging for an explanation. I just didn't feel like being pathetic, even though I knew I deserved answers. I felt that if he was so cowardly to leave me the way he did, that he didn't deserved my attention in any way, even if just to ask why?
Anyways, he ended up calling ME after a few months, CRYING, APOLOGISING for what he had done.
You see to this day I still perhaps don't entirely know why but it was a fair trade off for my dignity being intact. And in the end and deep down we always know why they left us. Because at that moment they thought we weren't good enough. And that in itself is not good enough for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): i agree, ending a relationship by text is just plain immature and cowardly. once you get a hold of her, tell her that if you're getting dumped, you would like to know why - it's a reasonable thing to ask for! Ending a relationship with out good closure is just ridiculous.good luck!
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reader, lildeesbg +, writes (23 August 2007):
 I think you have EVERYYY right for an answer to why she dumped you and why she did so in such a RUDE and IMMATURE way. Unfortunately, though you might feel things were going well her actions speak otherwise. Something must have happened semi-recently and instead of coming to you like an adult and talking about it she took the easy way out and wrote that message.Be prepared however that when you do approach her dont expect an intelligent answer from her. Whatever she says take it with a grain of salt and move on. You deserve a lot more respect than that !
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