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writes:I pretty much still love my ex girlfriend. She's the only person that I know right now who I want to share my life with. We split up some months back because she had to move to university. She is adamant in moving on, and wants me to do the same. I told her how I felt some time ago, but she has failed to give me any signs she wants a future with me, other than the friendly conversations we have.I want to move on from her, but I don't know how to do it. I can't simply stop talking to her, because we both treasure eachother's friendship. I've been in a very short term relationship since being with her, but I'm not convinced I will be happy with anyone else. Do you think that's likely? I can't stand the thought of not being happy in life, and if I can't be happy without her, then it makes me wonder if my life will be full of nothing but misery and regret.Please advise!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): Similar thing happened to me. Thing is you'll look back and see how silly you were being when you could be with some one else having a great time or just being yourself in singledom. You'll get over it. What attracts you is your happy memories which have cancelled out the bad ones, and in your eyes she can do no wrong when you were probably being played like a fidddle. Just be yourself - as good things happen and don't dwell on the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): Hi I can relate to your situation because I broke up withmy boyfriend a few years ago when he was still in love with me but i didn't feel the same way I still wanted him as a friend so we stayed friends for two years after wards, biggest mistake of my life he couldn't get over me because he saw me all the time it caused him a lot of emotional damage and these types of relationships can lead to obsessions. I finally had it with him when he started reading my emails. You cannot be friends with this girl, as hard as it may be, If she doesn't want you back then being friends with her is a big joke on you self because you are only kidding your self if you think she will fall in love eventually because the sad truth is when it is over it's over. And trust me it doesn't seem like it now but you will find someone else and fall in love again. I know I did just take some time out for your self. I know it was a good friendship but your emotional health is so much more importat
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): I think that the best thing for you to do is decide if you want to be her friend or not. It seems to me that she has made her mind up, and if you can't get past that, then you cant be her friend. If the friendship is a strong one, then maybe you should hold onto that, and be her friend by respecting her wishes. Hope this helps---good luck!Krista
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