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writes:Hi,well am in a situation, do I call or wait, about two months ago I started talking to this women at Sears, she works there, I used to. Before we only said hi, but we started talking, she took my number, took her three weeks to call, we talk for about a half hour or so, then she said she call me next month, about going out for dinner some time, I text her couple weeks ago, nothing back, I know she is busy with work, but how long does it take to text or call, am the one who has talk about going out, what am asking is, to me she doesn't seem to interested, if she did she at least text back something. And if she does here in a couple of weeks, do I ask her why she took so long, it seemed to me we clicked, that kinda scares me, I don't want to seem to eager, so girls , what should I do if she calls. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2014): I would not be impressed by a man asking me out on a first date by a text. It is also a bit difficult to plan the finer details of the date. A phone call would be much more impressive and likely to get my attention. I am a 46 year old woman, and would consider a text invitation to show a lack of confidence, manners and chivalry. That's just me.
My advice to you, is show your confidence, ring her, and invite her on a dinner date. You have nothing to loose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2014): If she was the one pursuing you when she took your number-if she was actively seeking it and wasn't taking it for a work-related purpose--then I would call her one more time. If not, the only thing I would do is continue to smile and be friendly with her when you do see her in person, but keep a distance and do not allude to dinner, phone calls, texts, or any potential relationship. Acting this way will improve your chances of gaining her interest, but even if it doesn't work, you'll feel better about how you handled yourself in the long run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2014): While I guess we can never know for sure I do perceive lack of communication and pursuit as lack of interest. Why don't you ask her? It shouldn't take a month to set up a date with someone if you're really interested in going out with them and getting to know them.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (9 August 2014):
 Even though its kinda silly, in this day and age it seems to be the man who has to do everything first and that includes calling or texting. I think you should give her a ring, ask her why she is taking so long to reply, she might well say its to do with work, and even though I don't doubt it isn't true, it takes 2 minutes to text someone back. But you should call and ask about dinner, also why not be open about it and ask if she thinks you two get a long. I'm sure if she isn't interested she won't take you up on your offer. However if you call her and she doesn't answer, give her two or three days to call back, and if she doesn't bother then don't hold your breath, its obvious if she can't call or text you in a few days time that she doesn't have time for you, and for what reason I don't know, it could be her job, her other commitments or the fact she isn't as interested in you as you are in her. If she does call in the future past the couple of days, then maybe you should think about calling it off, or asking her honestly if she is interested for you or have enough time in her life for you. Good Luck x
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