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writes: hi, i do not know if this will get posted, but if it does heres my question or problem.i seem to like this person that does not even know that i exist, i have tried to forget about her but i cant and i do not know what to do, as i have asked her out and got turned down, plzz help me as i am not able to concentrate with my self as i am alwayz thinking about her Reply to this Question
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (24 July 2006):
 Well you put all your eggs into one basket, you assumed that the basket would hold, but instead it fell apart and broke the eggs.
Time to start collecting new baskets and new eggs! I'll let you figure out the metaphor but if you need help let me know.
Good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe thing is that i have a good relationship with her cousin (i think) and i do not want to date or get to know other girls, i want that girl, like wild said i want something that i cant have
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2006): The last two posters have some good ideas, but I would also like to add that you should build on yourself first before you expand. As with what Wild said, build on your self-esteem, find your own interests/hobbies, analyse your abilities and emotions, meditate on them, reaffirm your existing friendships and family connections, and then expand towards new friendships with both males and females. You can be doing all these at the same time mind u.
With this, you will have a more solid foundation of yourself. Everyone else becomes a lot more trivial.
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reader, Wild Thaing +, writes (24 July 2006):
The corollary of the first poster's response is that you desire that which you cannot have.
If this is true, then you should be working on building your self-esteem. If you can evaluate your self-worth by properly excluding what others think of you, women who turn you down will no longer affect you in such a negative way.
This may seem difficult to achieve right now, but work on making female friends first. This way you get to know potential mates in a less risky way without sacrificing your dignity and self-respect. By the law of averages, if you make enough female friends, one of them is going to be worthy of a date.
Good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2006): I will be completely honest here, I am one of those girls. And every single time it happens I always look back and think he seemed nice or why didnt i give that one a chance. Sometimes its just the fact of knowing someone wants you, for you to not want them. First, dont ask her out again or seem desperate in any way. That will make her feel superior. But, what you can do is maybe try to talk to her as a friend. Im sure she wouldnt mind talking to you or making a new friend. And if shes not even open to that idea, im sure you'll get over that bitch fast!
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