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writes:ok so i have been with my girlfriend for about 1yr and 6 mon. she has been living with me for 6 mon. this whole time i have been the only one working and i pay for everything food, if we go out, cigs, everything. i mean she does housework like dishes and cleaning but i have to her bitching about every thing she does. she does not appreciate anything i do. she always expects me to do everything for her. i could do everything for her all day and if i say no to anything, she forgets all the things i did for her and she gets in to one of these moods like she wont talk to me or i cant touch her. she has never worked for an thing in her life everything has been handed to her. she has never had a job and she is 17. i really love her and i think she can change but every time we have a talk she's back to the same shit so my question is should i keep her and if so what should i do????? Reply to this Question
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reader, MissUnique  +, writes (14 November 2008):
 Good for the both of you if she's going to get a job, that at least shows you she wants to make the relationship work. As for her her moodswings, I would say...hug her. Seriously I know it sounds stupid but if she gets angry and starts yelling at you, just grab her and hug her like you'll never let go. Wow that sounds so cheesy but so true :) It'll show her how much you care.
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reader, ponaxkid420 +, writes (13 November 2008):
ponaxkid420 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thank you so much for the feed back, she went online yesterday and I got her to fill out apps. so hopfully she gets hierd some where..... I really thinks she is bipolar though because she's fine one minute but she just flips out for no reason. How can I deal with her spells she gets??
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reader, MissUnique +, writes (13 November 2008):
Wow, no offence but your girlfriend is a spoiled brat. She must have grown up never having to work hard for anything, always being given whatever she wanted and so on. If she was raised like that, then she must expect nothing to change now she's an adult. Why doesn't she work exactly? I mean, getting a job would help her to appreciate the value of money, hard work etc. etc. Try to encourage her to find a job, be really supportive and helpful, I know you are now, but getting a job might benefit you both a lot. If she doesn't start to realise that you're doing so much for her already and she really is being selfish, your relationship really isn't going to take off. It's hard to have a relationship with only one person committing. Tell her that if the job thing fails! Good Luck!!
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (13 November 2008):
 Sounds like a spoiled brat.
You need to examine her childhood. How did her parents raise her? You know, parents bring their kids to the preschool having fed them and done everything for them, and the teachers are left with the hard work of getting them to learn how to feed themselves, etc.
You're the one left with the hard work of shaping someone into a hard-working human being.
Talk to her about how you feel. Tell her that you are tired of her games, and that you are not putting up with her behavior anymore. Tell her that the next time she pouts, won't let you touch her or she wont talk to you, that you wont care, and you'll go to a movie/dinner by yourself and have a good time.
Every time she pouts list all of the good things that you do for her, and tell her that if she wants to focus on this one thing you wont do for her, that thats up to her, but you are not going to sit around trying to cater to her every whim, and that you are going to go do your own thing.
When she complains, go to another room and lock the door. When she asks why, tell her that you dont complain about the things that you do for her, so you are not going to listen to her complaining about the things that she does for you.
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reader, helpjayne +, writes (12 November 2008):
 sit down with her calmly and tell her how hard you work to buy the things you like and that sometimes you just need to take it easy instead of having her bitch down your ear about things as soon as your home. perhaps she just needs reminding cause when she's alone and your in work she's probably thinking of all the stuff she does for you not knowing that your working to make a better life for both of you maybe you could encourage her to get a job.
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