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She didn't want me 6 years ago, but now she's all over me. Shallow, and how do I get back at her?

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Question - (11 May 2011) 8 Answers - (Newest, 11 May 2011)
A male United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Dear cupid, 6 years ago I asked out a certain woman i was 22 she was 20, she is very beautiful,smart and fun. She rejected me bluntly because am 5'7 and she needed to feel protected shes 5'2. It hurt very much but she said it was her preference. Well now 6 years later am successful and women are plentiful, I met this same girl who rejected me working in the mall. I think she almost died when she saw me. Now she wants me, texts calls all the time. What should I do? Should I tell her my preference is a virgin woman?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2011):

Grow up! I'm surprised you find women plentiful as with that kind of childish attitude I wouldn't have thought anyone would want to date you.

You forget that this girl was only 20 when she rejected you. People change, priorities change and as an adult you should hopefully know that.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (11 May 2011):

chigirl agony auntJust hurry and dismiss her quickly, before she understands that she has no chance and pretends to be the one not interested in you after all.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2011):

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A gentleman? I cant do that she needs to learn a lesson, what goes around comes around and its my round.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2011):

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Actually she did reject me over my height. Her friends told me the same thing. She only dated golliahs, and am david i guess. I guess she wants me now because her same friends compliment me now.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (11 May 2011):

Honeypie agony auntEhh, don't stoop to her level. Just tell her politely that you aren't interested and move on.

Just because she hurt your pride and ego doesn't give you the right to be a prick. However, letting her know she doesn't rock your boat and then ignoring her, might make you feel better in the long run.. Be a gentleman.. For her to see in a subtle way JUST how wrong she was is far more powerful anyhow.

Poor girl is still shallow. Well, I guess someone never left "high school".

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A female reader, LogiciaBil United States +, writes (11 May 2011):

The best thing to do to get "back at her" is to tell her you are not interested and do not contact her afterwards. Dont give her a reason, this is where it will bother her. She will want to know why and you didn't give it to her.

Like the other people said, getting even with a "mean" come back wont really do much. It might make you feel better temporarily, but then you will have to deal with her potentially lashing back at you. Do you really want to deal with that? I don't think so.

Just politely but bluntly say "Im not interested and I dont really have anything to discuss with you." then leave it at that. No matter what she says after words, leave her alone.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2011):

If you want to get revenge ignore her as she obviously wants you, but if u like her ask to go out

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (11 May 2011):

chigirl agony auntDon't tell her your preference is a virgin woman unless it actually is and you know she's not a virgin.

You just want to get even, right? You don't want her any more? Then ignore her. Tell her that she is a shallow person and that you are still the same height as you were 6 years ago, so is she. Maybe ask her if she's found the gorilla yet that she wanted to protect her and make her feel safe.

My guess though is that she was making up excuses to not date you back then, as hight obviously didn't have anything to do with it. You weren't a good catch in her eyes back then, now you are. If you want to take the high road, just ignore her and tell her you're not interested.

It's fun when what goes around comes around, right?

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