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writes: In a relationship for one a half years and i have been cheated upon 8 times what do i do?I am in a realtionship with a girl of the same age. We have been together for 1 and a half years and i have got cheated almost 8 times with different girls each time.And these Girls are my friends.My girlfriend has got a craving for attention.I give her all the attention i can but she is never satisfied with me.Each time i get cheated upon and i find out all she ever tells me is that she will change and to give her one more chance to prove herself.BUt each time time i am fated to go through the same hurt and pain again and again.She claims that she loves me but i do not know if its for real.Whenever i talk to her she sounds so convincing and i tend to believe whatvere that she has got to say.She was the only person i depended on all this while.We are in the same school,classes and projetc groups.Even if i want to, i cannot run away from her at all.Its just so hard for me.All she ever did was to give me empty promises.She treated every one of her friends so wellbut when it came to i felt as though i was just being used,like a spare tyre for her.I have showered her with all of my love and i have gone all out to get whatever she wanted.It has come to a point where everyone around me is telling me to move on with my life.They all claim that i do not desrev her one bit at all.Its even more harder as we have got physical with each other and when we fight we fought use force and she beats me in front of my own friends.I still want her.I cannot bear to see her with someone else.Its just hurting me so much to be away from her.I want to see her.I want to talk to her.I want to be with her.I love her so much.I do not what to do.Please help me out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2006): Face it this girl does not love you. I feel for you as i have felt the same for someone in the past, and i know it hurts. You will kick yourself if you let her to continue treating you this way, as its a sure fact that you are not the one for her, its painful i know but true and deep down you know it
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reader, lostgal +, writes (8 June 2006):
lostgal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt was almost 8 days before i met her.I somehow found out where she was heading to and went there.This was all pre planned.i alomst broke down when i saw her.she went outside of the club immediately when she caught sight of me.i had a message asking to come outside the club alone and i did go out.she saw me and ran to me and started crying in front of my eyes.we did nt really talk abt what had happened or what i knew abt but when i asked abt certain issues she denied the truth.i tried to get it out from her but i could not.however she promised tt she would never cheat on me again. i do not knw whether i should believe her or not. i am so confused. i want to be with her. i do not know why.i do not mind taking all the hurt to be wit her. thinking hard about what i should do...
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (7 June 2006):
 I think maybe she is too young to be wanting to be tied to one person. She obviously wants to see what else is out there and your just hanging around letting her do it. Yes you love her, but does she love you ? Its a two way street when your in a relationship, and if shes quite happy to go off and cheat in a blink then i dont think shes the one for you. If she really wanted to be with you then she wouldnt be doing this. You are probably her safety net, she has you waiting there for when things go wrong. Shes cheated all this time what makes you think she will change ? What happens if she cheats with someone then decides she wants to be with them and not you ? I thihk you need to let her go, she needs her freedom and isnt ready for a serious relationship. The more this continues the more you will get hurt. Your friends are right, you dont deserve to be treated like this, the longer you let her get away with it the more she will do it as she knows you will take her back, you have to make a stand and move on, this isnt the girl for you as shes doesnt want what you do. Find someone that will treat YOU right, when somebody loves you they go out of their way not to hurt you, not out of their way to hurt you!
Take care x
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reader, Aunt Audrey +, writes (7 June 2006):
 Never mind being totally in love with your g/f, you should learn to love yourself more, and stop letting this girl treat you like a complete doormat!
It sounds like she likes to play the field and you are looking for a bit more commitment in the relationship, don't think you'll ever get that with her.
Put this one down to experience and get shot of her, she will only drag you down, being in love is better when feelings are mutual you shouldn't be left feeling like s*** all the time. How can you ever trust her again?
This relationship is not worth your time, and I can't see it going anywhere or giving you anything but grief!
Your call though!
Good luck!
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