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writes:Me and my girl have been together for a year. But she constantly chooses her friend over me. Often she cancels with me at the last second to hang with her. She will tell me to come pic her up, then right before I get there she comes up with a reason to stay and leaves me out in the cold. Did I mention I live 300 miles away and her friend lives 45 minutes away. So its a big deal for me to come down. I told her today that I was sick of playing second fiddle and that I was leaving and never coming back because she did it to me this morning. She said not to leave and that she loves me and when she gets back a little later today she will go with me so we can work it out. There are alot of other variables, but the bottom line is I told her this is her LAST chance. Secretly, I dont know if I can leave her. I feel like she will do it again. Am I doing the right thing by giving her this chance or is this just gonna happen over and over again? How do I get her to understand that this really hurts me that it feels like she loves her friend more than me? Reply to this Question
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (2 July 2007):
 If you have told her this is her last chance you should follow it through. You need to make her understand how angry and upset she is making you. It may be hard to walk away but can you really carry on like this??
I do believe in second chances- sometimes. So give her the second chance but she messes it up you HAVE to walk away or she WILL see you as a complete push over and carry on with what she is doing. She has to see she has to change her ways slightly.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (2 July 2007):
 Hi
I think you are right to give her this chance, as everyone deserves a chance to put things right, you ask if she will do this again, which is hard to tell she might well have learnt her lesson now you have told her how you feel about the situation, maybe because you had not said anything before she thought you were not all that bothered about it.
You need to tell her how you feel about the relationship she has with her friend, just say to her that you understand and accept the friendship but sometimes you feel as though her friend means more to her than you do.
She probably has no idea you feel this way and might be shocked to find out, but it might cause some changes.
Take care.xx.
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