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writes:I'm in love with a teacher - well i suppose it's an obsessive crush really! And the thing is, he appears kinda paranoid whenever i stare at him - which is literally whenever he steps outside the staff block! Right, i'm mad about him and i want him to know it. So of course i try my best to make it obvious! Almost everytime i stare, he looks back - I'd love to fink he's looking back cos he 'likes' me too, but dis is quite unlikely and it is only because he's paranoid at me starin at him. And for some reason i feel really guilty cos if he doesn't know better than to know i fancy him...alot! Then he's maybe paranoid that there is something wrong with him and i'm takin the mick out of him! [der is nufin wrong with him, he's perfect - i don't want him to think this] Often when i do stare, i have a massive grin on my face so if you look at it from his point of view - he could well fink this!!! However, if he is more wise den he'll kno the truth [hopefully]! So i just wanna make sure he realises that i FANCY him like mad and not seeing him as some sort of laughing stock. If you have any advice on how i can reassure him in this way then dat wud b absolutely fantastic! Well der is the alternative of actually telling him my feelings, then agen it mite land me in a humiliating situation! xx
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reader, AJ1443 +, writes (20 March 2011):
 Oh babe, I'm in EXACTLY the same situation! But the worst thing is about mine, is that he got told about it, so he knows. I was so upset when he told me that he didn't like me back, but I just had to accept it. Even still, 2 years on, I still like him and just CANNOT get over him. I spoke to Childline recently, and it helped alot to get my feelings out if no-one will listen and understand. Just stay strong.Amy xxx
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reader, british_girl +, writes (12 March 2008):
 hey i know just how you feel, i've posted loads of stuff on this site bout the i love my teacher forums, because i love my teacher too, and i dont use the phrase lightly, becuase i really care so much about him, im just like you. i'd be cautious around him though - you don't want to ruin everything. my teacher isnt married or anything, but theres a 16 year age gap that i couldnt care less about. i feel all panic-attack-y when im around him and my heart feels like its stopping and starting, and i get so anxious whenever im near him. i don't think he knows, and he doesn't treat me that differently... well, hes always asking me if i've finished my work (i usually have - i revise dead hard for his lessons to impress him, so im good at his subject) and i always answer the really dificault questions becuase want him to think that we're more or less equals, intelligence-wise, and he did say at parents evening that im mature (that made me so happy). i am a little obsessed with him as well, but even though its wrong, i just cant help it becuase i want to know everything about him. i love this guy so much. we should talk some time. id love to hear the poem u wrote, i write loads but they're all crap, and i love reading books about pupils n teachers and their love, and if i hear a song that reminds me of how i feel for him, i put it on my ipod and listen to it over and over again! its so painful, this emotion, and i think at some point, everyone feels it, so you're not alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): i fell in love with my teacher about a year ago, i got so obsessive and even invited him to my birthday party. it spread round like crazy that i was in love with him and it just ended up that he avoided me and i got into so much trouble and he ended up so embaressed
its ok to have a crush on a teacher but take it any further and you could end up in so much trouble and he could lose his job
i still dont have a good relationship with this guy and all the other teachers are against me now
you dont want to get into this trust me
try and keep your love to yourself :D
hanz
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've just wrote this amazing poem about him! Amongst some romantic phrases - Have i gone mad? lol i deren't send him the poem or owt...it wud just be sooo wrong since he's a teacher! Oh yeah, i read my horoscope for the week ahead and i couldn't believe my eyes it sed "A person whom you have admired for a long time - perhaps who is a little older than yourself, may finally take an interest in you"!
It just sounds right doesn't it! i mean, its not just the fact that when i stare at him he looks back - it's recently been the other way on! Last week i was in a class and at the corner of my eye, saw him looking right at me thru the window so i turned to face him AND HE WAS! Then i quickly put my head down and he walked on... Perhaps, he is starting to like me! I aren't imagining him staring, but i'm most likely gettin the wrong impression by it - knowing me! But dis week, we're goin on dis trip and i am gonna make such an effort to try get his attention! I do try to make an effort at school for him anyway...but dis tyme i'm gonna do it BIG! Wish meh luck x
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reader, bemused  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Hi hun.
I am a teacher and I can tell you that you are putting this guy in kind of a bad spot. Part of teaching is getting the material across but the other part is being a role model. Sounds like this guy understands this and cares enough about you to not be going along with this. You need to respect him enough and yourself to let him be what he is...a teacher and you go back to what you are...a student. Teachers can get in a lot of trouble over a situation like this and I do not think you want this for this guy. Hope this helps :)
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Nope dont act on it, you cant do because like whats already been said, he could lose his job and it doesnt land you in a very good situation either. Although its really hard to deal with, you have to try and stay away from him, no matter how tempting it is. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know you mean well, but i dunt fink i can get over him! Today, for instance i made a rite prat of myself! My mates were takin the mick outa me fancying him - i had a right go at em both n dey still carried on callin him *joking about*! I lost my temper and stormed off infront...they carried on and were laughing! Soon after, i started crying! I couldn't care less what dey thort of me liking him, it was just the fact that they were being a bit harsh towards the person i absolutely adore and it made me realise how much i cared for him and how i need him in my life. I know it sounds pathetic! And i realise dat my mates didn't mean any harm to start me off crying dey were just messing around but at that time i didn't quite see it that way and was furious inside! So, i fink my behaviour today has really shocked my mates as they probs now know how serious i am about *him* I shocked myself actually and feel realli embarrassed about the whole thing. I am literally pining for him - And i am almost in tears just writing this. What can i do? I never knew crushes were so painful!!!
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reader, LauraE +, writes (3 July 2007):
He could get in serious trouble if anything at all happened between you. He could lose his job. He could be prosecuted. Even if people were suspicious, and he had done nothing wrong, he could suffer serious consequences. Do you want that to happen? Your behaviour is making him uncomfortable because he knows it is wrong even if you don't. Crushes are tough to deal with, because they pretty much take you over, and stop you thinking properly. But you must not pursue him. It would be unfair and selfish to do so it no matter how you feel. The right thing to do is to keep away from him as much as possible until you are over it. Believe me, it won't be very long until you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): Hi love,
I wouldnt say a word to the poor man, he is a teacher and it is totally wrong and forbidden for him to have any kind of feelings for you other than as a student, And he probably knows anyway if he is paranoid everytime he sees you looking, Darling im not being harsh but we've all had crushes on a teacher at some point they no its obvious, ive been in staffrooms before.. hunny you will have lots of different lads you like as time goes on, its all part of life... The only advise i would say love is it will pass crushes are normal just dont ack on this ok sweetheart TAKE CARE LOTS OF LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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