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writes: I am currently dating a girl and have been with her for about four months now. While it may seem crazy, we are already very close and have both discussed the good chance that we will share a future together. She plays golf at my school, but has to travel to a nearby course to play. Unfortunately her ex-boyfriend works at that particular course almost every day. She does run into him fairly often, but claims not to associate or speak to him. I trust her, but recently when i attended one of her matches, I caught her glancing over at him quite a few times. I confronted her on it and she told me that she was simply curious to see what he was like a year later, but had absolutely NO feeligns for him. Is this probably true? Thanks
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (6 October 2006):
 Ahh, the old green eyed monster has reared its tail! Its perfectly normal to be jealous of a partners ex, but ask yourself this, what if you really knew the truth about how she felt about this other guy? Would it make a difference to how you would feel if you knew she still had a little bit of feelings for him (and its only natural as we're only humans if you ask me)? Would you break it off with her if she admitted she really loved you but obviously the thought of the ex is playing in her mind just a little? My point is, jealousy is normal, but is it realy worth it? It shows your insecurities within, which is a huge turn off...it pushes the other person to the edge...it only causes more jealousy and fights...etc. And besides, she was only glancing at him, not like shes cheating on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2006): I can't tell from your description, chances are she is telling you the truth, if she sees him frequently and she has not dated him again...I think curiosity always gets the better of us, but I would just try to relax about it or you might drive a wedge between you two over nothing more than a look his way.
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