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writes:A few years ago while working at a partner company I got to know an attractive woman. We started eating lunches together and grabbing coffee. We have also done other things together. Since then I have moved on to another business but have stayed in touch with her. We have talked about become more physical. She has said that her and her husband do not have sex any more. We have both expressed an interest in sex together. She has mentioned that she is going to a conference in another city and asked if I would like to meet her there. I really do want to. I have dreamed about making love to this woman. What advice would you have? Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): Given an equal choice between two women - both with the same 'opportunity' - one is married, one is totally single which would you sleep with? If the latter.... maybe you should ask yourself why you want to be used by a married woman?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 December 2007):
 I want to commend bemused on her very good advice. I don't think it can be improved. She has just hit the nail in the head. Brilliant, Bemused.
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reader, bemused +, writes (19 December 2007):
 Oh boy...the age old story but a human one too I guess. Here is the deal in my eyes. She wants a bit on the side and you want this too apparently.
There are two outcomes here. The reason you have talked about it is because you both know the potential for pain and are wondering if the forbidden fruit is worth the risk. I am not going to get on a moral high horse here because my instinct is that this affair is going to happen because you both want it. If it is a one off and no one gets hurt...well I guess that is better than a one off where feelings start to develop and then you have to make another choice as to whether to continue at the expense and dignity of her husband. From the sound of your post it would seem you are single and if you are accurate about your age...why are you considering a dalliance with a married person. If you develop feelings for her you are the more vulnerable one. If you do not want a serious relationship right now that may be why this is acceptable to you.
I would suggest you might consider giving this a miss because that night of passion might lead to a whole bunch of headaches and heartaches later. Life is complex enough...do not complicate it more.
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