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*elshblood
writes:hi im a 22yr old male with a 3yr old son by my ex girlfriend. who i still love like crazy. story goes we have been together just over 4 years on and off and after about 2yrs we split up because i found out she cheated on me 2 weeks into the relationship from a close friend. ever since we bin on and off i gave her another chance an we split again because i had trust issues then she went and slept with another guy after we split. didnt help. we got back together because she begged me to try again so i did. an we split again because of my paranoia. but now i have got over my trust issues and she says she doesn't want to know me an she wants to meet new people an now im begging her to get back with me. she has made up seeing another guy (she says that she did it so id stop nagging her to get back together) it doesnt make sense. i want to get back wat we had how do i get her back. any help or advice would be great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): I just want to point out that it seems like since now that it is you that wants to get back together she is not interested. I bet that if you backed away and acted as if you were uninterested and just focus on your son it would cause her to do some soul searching which she obviously needs to do. Good Luck, and remember, focus on your son.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 If you want to get her back , you need to woo her and make her fall in love with you again.
Your chance is brighter because you have a child with her and there is no way she can forget that.
Your persistence may wear her resistance down.
Good luck.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 dont get her back - why would you want to? she treats you badly, cheats on you, hurts you and then makes YOU feel bad just because you want to get back with her? im sorry but why would you want to put yourself through that willingly? it is VERY unfair for her to get with someone else 'to stop the nagging' - that is disrespectful, selfish and shows that she obviously doest care enough that you are still hurting. hun, you deserve more than someone who will have an on/off relationship with you, and someone that is able committ to you and be available every day - not every second month. if need be, maintain a healthy civil relationship with her for the sake of your son. but i think that the best thing for you to do is to leave now before its another 2 years and your back on the site with the same problem. good luck, email me if you want xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): Hi doll,
Take a look at an article I posted a couple of days ago, entitled; "something I wanted to share" - Tuatara.
It might help clear some thoughts on what you are going through and give your some words to share with her.
All the best.
xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): The phrase 'once a cheater, always a cheater' does not always follow through, friend. :) Although it may be too late to save this relationship romantically (friends is probably not out of the question), you probably have learned your lesson about this, and have all that knowledge to carry forward to your next relationship. Good luck, babe.
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