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writes:I have been in a relationship for 2 years. and have never been happier, until i find out for a couple months my girlfriend was sleeping with her ex. the last time she slept with him was at least 6 months ago. but during the cheating period i suspected and was lied to countless times. But lately our relationship has been great, but i cant get the vision of her sleeping with him out of my head. laying with him and laughing at my ignorance. I know she loves me, but i cant seem to get over the fact that she cheated and threw countless crying fits of denial when confronted. I love her but have since finding out broke it off. She is doing all she can to reconnect but i just cant seem to get the image of him and her out of my head, how can i trust again? The thing is our relationship has grown a lot since then and i know she wouldnt cheat again but i cant get the images out of my head . Any advice on how to get over my problem? or should i just cut my loses?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): This is a case of her wanting her cake and eating it too. You did the right thing. It will hurt for a while but time will heal all wounds.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 December 2010):
You did the right things by dumping her. Your girlfriend was still sleeping with her ex, which means that you were second best and that she wasn't over him. Don't be a fool. She doesn't love you, she loves him. And if she cheated on you so soon, she'll do it again.
Just say well away from her.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (30 December 2010):
 You can trust again, just not her. She doesn't deserve your trust. She suffered the consequences of her actions as she should.
Don't fool yourself. She can cheat again. She can lie about it again. She probably will to.
Definitely cut your losses here. I know it sucks to lose someone you care about, but this is for the best. Good job ending things. Stay strong. Why should her happiness cost you yours when you were the one she wronged?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): It doesn't get much worse than that in my opinion. that's the most extreme betrayal of trust right there. you can say that you forgive her, but that image and those bad feelings will not probably go away. If you go back with her, you're just setting yourself up for a lot of heartache and pain. my advice is to move on.
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