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writes:what if a girl makes a mistake of cheating on you one time, but really wants to be with you and make the relationship workout? how would you be able to tell if she wants it to workout? Reply to this Question
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (18 January 2010):
 First off, cheating isn't a mistake. Not setting your alarm is a mistake, or perhaps mistaking salt with sugar. Having sex with someone else is nothing but choice and willingness to disrespect a partner.
Anyway, you'll be able to tell easily if she's willing to work things out. If her past attitudes and tendencies make a change for the better, then she's serious about it. If you catch her lying (which I assume she did before), then you know she isn't ready to make things better. If she doesn't respect your feelings of her hanging out with her past flings (which should be a no brainer), and she continues to do so anyway, then she isn't serious about change. I personally would never take a cheater back, but if this is what you want, think of her as she's on probation. She should be doing anything and everything to earn your trust back, and wrong moves count as triple the effects in your books. Don't let things slide. Take signs seriously, and don't accept excuses or contradicting behavior.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): I had two relationship so far, first time lasted 3years, the one i am in, been 1 year 6 months. I know my BF cheated and i know he hasnt stop either. He can't stop though he promised me so many times. Well Try giving her a chance, you will know if she really wants to make it work. she will be very sincere.she wouldnt hide anything from you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 January 2010):
By slowing everything down and really getting to know her again. To trust her, you need her to be totally open and honest, and she needs to understand that you will need a to of reassurance and time to trust her again. If she doesn't understand that, then she's not sincere.
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