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writes:Dear Cupid,I met the love of my life 14 months ago. At first I wasn't sure I wanted to get involved. But she did all the right things to woo me, until she got me to fall for her. After I fell in love with her, she started distancing herself from the relationship.Three weeks ago, I asked her if we were still a couple and she told me that she has a lot going on in her life that she needs to deal with and she didn't feel she needed to be in a relationship at this time.However, whatever it is that is so drastic going on in her life, the only change she has made is dumping me.She said, she never intended for this to happen and that she was sorry that she has hurt me.The sad part is she couldn't even call me or tell me to my face about what was going on.Instead she sent it to me by e-mail and she won't even talk to me now.When I asked her what was going on that she felt I needed to be excluded from her life, the only answer she would give is: 'Does it have to be anything? "Why can't it be, I just don't need to be in a relationship?"My problem is I try to over analyze everything and I know that isn't good, because I've lost my appetite, as well as a lot of sleep in the last few weeks.Is there a happy ending here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHANK YOU so much to everyone, who gave me a little insight on this whole situtation. I really APPRECIATE the wisdom you shared with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): I am feeling for you as I read your story. As hard as it is to see beyond the emotion in this situation as an outsider it is clear to see that this woman did take the 'cowards way' out as stated in the previous response and that is not cool at all. To me, it says that she does not respect you enough for a face to face like you deserve or a valid reason as to why. I am not digging that at all and it is my opinion that you should distract yourself from too much thought about this by being with family and friends. At times like this it can be difficult to understand that this may very well be a blessing in disguise. Your future will reveal just how true this actually is. Do what you have to do to distance and protect your heart from this woman who obviously does not care about it at this moment in time. You deserve better than that; keep on keepin' on without her in your life.
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reader, shania  +, writes (8 October 2009):
 Its hard isn't it? You fall in love, you expect your partner to feel the same,and when they dont, your lost..you feel empty and i know you feel very sad.This woman should of had the decency to tell you face to face but instead she took the cowards way out and used email to end it.She probably found you more appealing when you weren't in love with her...she may of found it a challenge to make you fall in love with her and once you did...the novelty wore off..but im guessing here.
Is there a happy ending? yes there is although you wont think that,right now...Now it could go either way..she might start to miss you, she might then, call you and ask for a 2nd chance or she doesn't and you will have to accept that.
I know your broken hearted but time is a great healer and you will get over her, trust me...i have been there.
Keep yourself busy...meet up with your friends, dont sit indoors and dwell on what could of been...your allowed to feel sad but not forever...she isn't worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): Perhaps all she wanted to do was see if she could get you, and when she had you she felt it was game over. A low self esteem woman probably.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (8 October 2009):
 You need to let it go. She probably didn't intend to hurt you, but that's the crappy way things turned out. The reason she let you know by email is because she's afraid of dealing with your hurt, and there's probably a reason why she can't deal with that sort of negative emotion.
Sometimes the person that's perfect for us isn't the same person that we're perfect for, which is one of life's stinkers, but unfortunately that's the way it is. You will get over it, and the sooner you accept her choice, the quicker you'll recover and hopefully find the real love of your life. Trust me, it'll get better :) X
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