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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend and I recently broke up as she felt she wasn't ready to be in a relationship. She still feels strongly about me, but says she's trying to force herself to get over me due to her not wanting a relationship at the moment.However, she has said things about wishing she could be in a relationship right now as we used to be really happy together. She's saying things about how it's not fair if I wait around for her, both as it's pressure on her and prevents me moving on in case she never feels ready.. As it ended in such a sudden way, I decided I was going to try to change back to how I was pre-relationship or something. I decided if I had to get over her changing my life somewhat is the way to do it. And yet she keeps insisting I don't, and she's adamantly against me moving to the US. She also put an "x" in a text, which she only did when we were happy together whilst dating, but she put a sad face :( after it.She says she wants to be good friends, and when she said "sweet dreams" over MSN when we were going to go to sleep, she put a love heart with it. It seems that she's still really close to me but just can't make the leap to a full relationship.Are all these signs that she still cares more about me more than just a friend proof that if I give her time without the pressures of a relationship she will come back to me, or is she just trying to soften the blow due to me taking the break-up badly?Thanks
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reader, myp  +, writes (25 June 2007):
 It sounds like she wants you to chase her. She wants you to be so enamored by her that you cant help but go and find her. Its all games, if shes really flirty then give her an ultimatum, either you're together or your not and if your not then she needs to stop coming on to you, so you can get on with your life. If she wants to be together but shes scared then she needs to take a frickin leap of faith, so you can both be happy.
best of luck
-Myesha
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reader, flower girl +, writes (25 June 2007):
 Some people are not ready for relationships and at her age that is not a bad thing but at the same time they just do not want to let go.
If she is not ready for a relationship then she should at least have the decency to let you get on with your life, i take it from what you have said you are going to the states don't let her make you feel bad about doing that, just get on with your life as you are still young so go and enjoy yourself.
Take care.xx.
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