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writes:My girlfriend cheated on me--we have been together 5 yrs, lived together for 3 yrs and now living apart until we find a house. She went away working and came back and confessed that she slept with someone...it was a one off she said. What do I do? I really love her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007): My girlfriend did the exact same thing, she said this guy who she admitted she liked came onto her and they were both mortal drunk. The guy told his fiancee and she broke up with him and cancelled the wedding and moved out. My girlfriend swears to me that it was the biggest mistake of her life and that she needs me and loves me. She's been round nearly every day saying she was sorry and crying. I believe that she's telling the truth but will she do it again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthose are really good answers, it happened over a week ago now, i didnt show anger, just that i was hurt, we had something special, i was her first ever lover and she was my first ever lover, she will always by my only love. i been working 16 hrs 7 days a week when she was away to make money to buy a house together. the worst thing is that she gets sex off me whenever she wants, i have never turned her down. i just have visions of her seeing this other man and seeing her going week in the knees over him. im going to give it a few weeks and try to forget it, as i say, she is my one and only love. cheers guys.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (26 June 2007):
 She obviously doesn't love you back, or respect you enough to save it for you. The best thing that you can do is move on, no matter how much it may appear to hurt.
DV1
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reader, Silas +, writes (25 June 2007):
It happened to me, stay with her, give her another chance. Atleast she owned up to it, that shows in itself she loves you, the guilt was eating her up. Take some time apart, reflect and get together, take things slow. Take care mate!
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reader, flower girl +, writes (25 June 2007):
 Only you can decide what to do now.
Do you still want to be with her?
Can you still trust her?
Every body makes mistakes not that i am justifying what she has done to you, but sometimes we just get caught up in the moment.
In some ways at least she had the balls to own up to what she had done she could have kept it from you.
Maybe you could tell her that you still love her if thats the way you feel and suggest that she gives you some time and space as you are very hurt at the moment and you need to try and deal with what she has done.
If you do not think that you can get over this completely though and i mean so that it never crops up in future arguements or you have trust issues, then maybe it would be better to end the relationship altogether but i really think you should give yourself time to think about that.
Take care.xx.
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reader, natalie-ann +, writes (25 June 2007):
Stay with her... give it one more chance if it happens again forget her shes not worth your time... love hurts but being made fool twice hurts even more.
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