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writes:I'm pretty sure of what the answer to my question is, but I thought I could get a little input.Several years ago, my girlfriend and I at the time decided to break up.(Of course this is just before high school, so whether someone can call that a real relationship is questionable at best.) And yes, it was more her idea than mine. Anyways, things weren't left on the best of terms between us all through high school. Over the next few years following high school, we may have talked once but we never really stayed in touch or inquired about each others lives. Now, thanks to the age of facebook, I recently found out that she broke up with her fiance because he cheated on her.So here's my question: Do I send her a message offering my condolences and risk coming off snide in her eyes because of what happended in the past, or do I just let it pass me by and pay no mind because we haven't talked in years? Or is there some other option/result I haven't considered?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): That's basically word for word the reasoning that went through my head, thanks for reinforcing my logical deduction.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (22 March 2011):
 Leave it be - it would be totally inappropriate for you to contact her. You are right in saying that you would come off as snide, because you would look like you are happy about her failed relationship. And there is always the other issue that it would seem like you want to get back with her, and that would be the last thing she would want to deal with right now - her fiance has just cheated on her, the man she wanted to spend the rest of her life with has broken her heart; she doesnt need a crazy ex boyfriend in the mix too!
There is no reason at all to get in touch with her - you would only come out of it badly. So leave her be, let her deal with the more pressing issue of her fiance cheating rather than adding an old ex boyfriend as another problem in her life.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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