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writes: Been seeing this woman for four months, have a lot of fun going out dancing movies places to eat, the sex is great, but she only has time to see me once a week,I told her I looked her up on Facebook, she got really mad,she said that's personal, so she blocked me, on Facebook.Is she hiding something, haven't met any her friends, she has met mine, she doesn't want to meet any my family.Haven't said I love you or anything like that,last week I stayed over night, but about ten Sunday morning she said I had to go cause her friend was coming over, I mean I had to go, haven't heard from her since, did I get ghost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2019): I think her friend is a "boy!" She has a boyfriend, and she probably likes to play on the side. Why would she hide someone she's dating from her friend?
RED-FLAG!!! Bells, buzzers, and alarms!!!
If she blocked you, move on. There's some potential drama down the road, if she's up-to cheating. Why should you risk getting your brains bashed-out by some maniac boyfriend she just so happened to forget to mention?
Take this entire situation to be fair-warning. Facebook is public, unless you set your account for contacts only. It's designed to search for people.
She blocked you, consider that your cue to step-off. Go no contact! Block her number from your phone; and don't allow her or "her friend" any means of contacting you!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (9 March 2019):
I think she just sees you as casual - whether that’s because she has a boyfriend or not. She doesn’t want anything serious with you, so I’d let her go.
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reader, N91 +, writes (9 March 2019):
If you think this is the signs of a healthy relationship then I’m not sure what to say here.
She’s obviously hiding you from something. Surely you think you can do better than this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2019): And I thought only men do this! OP, it's clear as day you are just her sex toy for a little fun on the side. She is happy with her life and does not want you in it. It's like she has her whole cake and you are the icing. Or some icing. I suspect her husband or bf is her whole cake but things have gotten a little boring however she doesn't want to leave him. She blocked you on FB? Is keeping herself at arm's length? It's cause she's NOT single!!!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 March 2019):
If she has been seeing you and been INTIMATE with you for 4 months HOW is her public social media Private"? What can be MORE private and personal than intimacy?
I'd just block her and move on.
There is something VERY fishy about this woman and questionable in her treatment of you. You are her weekly booty-call.
She doesn't want you to meet her friends and she doesn't want to meet YOUR family? That's just odd.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2019): It’s fairly obvious that She has a boyfriend or maybe even a husband. And you are her side piece. Don’t spend anymore time thinking about her. Block her number in case she decides to contact you again. Then find a woman who does not have another man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2019): There are 3.5 billion women on the planet. Stop wasting time thinking about this one and go find one of them. One who has time for you and isn’t hiding something.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (8 March 2019):
Facebook (a PUBLIC forum) is personal? Really? If there was anything truly personal, she should either not have posted it on a public forum or limited access to friends.
View this situation as a whole. Not only was she really mad at you for checking her out on a public forum, but she also only has time to see you once a week, she hasn't introduced you to any of her friends, she doesn't want to meet your family and removes you from her place so her "friend" does not meet you. How many red flags do you want before you work out things are not right here?
In your shoes I would just let her go. Don't pursue her. If she contacts you again (which she could do), tell her this relationship is not for you. You deserve better.
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