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writes:My husband just revealed something to me I NEVER knew after 6 years of marriage!He has been anal douching for 10 years. I had no idea. I've watched him take showers before but never saw him do such a thing.I am now wondering if he could be bisexual? Or is having sex with men behind my back?Why would a hetero man do something like that unless he was preparing for anal sex? And why would my husband even tell me about this? He knows I'm already insecure.
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reader, InstallerLife  +, writes (17 March 2019):
It's his body....he has a right to clean his colon if he wants to! Why are you such a control freak that you want to know everything that he does with his own body? Do you keep a chart of how many times a month he masturbates!!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2019): He reveals something like that to you; but it didn't dawn on you to ask him any questions about it? Like, why?
You might be jumping to conclusions. He had every opportunity to tell you if he was bisexual; if he went that far. You didn't ask for details; so you're drawing your own conclusion. Maybe you should ask him before you brand him gay or bisexual.
It is possible he likes the feeling of water or liquid rushing up into his anal cavity and expelling the liquid. He may have no other reason, but liking the sensation.
Prepare yourself for whatever. He has confessed that much, so you simply have to brace yourself for what comes next. If you've been together 6 years, and he has been anal douching for 10 years unbeknownst to you; perhaps you have nothing to worry about.
Liking the sensation doesn't make him gay, he just likes a unusual practice that probably makes him feel clean. He didn't come right-out and say he likes anal sex with men.
There are people who get colonic irrigation thinking it cleanses the colon and detoxifies the body. They believe it makes them healthier by boosting their immune system and gives you energy. Most doctors consider it just a fad, and hipster nonsense. There is no scientific evidence such things have any benefit whatsoever. So it's just something he may enjoy because he gets pleasure from it.
I think if he was into men, by now you'd have some clue. You should ask, and get everything out in the open. We've come this far, lets go all the way.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (9 March 2019):
 Could just be that he prefers feeling clean up there, but it’s worth CALMLY asking and not accusing or assuming anything.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 March 2019):
 Why didn't you ask him why?
I'd be curious if my husband made such a statement. NOT because I would ASSume (sorry, that was too obvious) that he was cheating, but there WOULD be a reason to tell me and a reason to mention it, I'd wager.
There is NO way for us to know IF he is bi-sexual or having sex behind your back.
You need to talk to him WITHOUT accusing him of cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2019): Why not talk to HIM about it? No one actually knows the answers you seek except for him.
Fyi... He might just like butt stuff and doesn't want poop everywhere or he is convinced it something that makes him clean... despite the fact that too much can lead to health issues.
Does liking anal stuff make a man gay? What is this, 1950? No.
Flynn 35
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