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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my girlfriend for 6 closing in on 7 months, but just recently we broke up. It has been 4 days since the break up and her friends tell me the reason was because of a number of factors including my ex-girlfriend whom she thinks I still like, my doubt of her, the way I sometimes do not trust her, and sometimes my aggressiveness.We had had big arguments and splits that lasted for about an hour or so, but never one this long. Her friends talked to her and she told them that she did not know who she was, and that she had a lot of stress and pressure due to exams.She said she still is in love with me as much as ever before, and that I believe as I have seen her crying even after we broke up. She says she still wants me to be a part of her life, and she says that she KNOWS that I am the one she would want to settle with, just not here and now. Each time she is bawling her eyes out when she says this. She says the relationship was getting hard, and not like it was when we first started.I have asked her numerous times to let me show her that it can and will be better but each time she said "I don't know...", then today she ultimately ended it on that she wants me to move on because she honestly does not believe that she is good enough for me. When I asked her if a little part of her did not want me to move on she said "Not a little part, a huge part, I know I want to be with you I just can't right now"My question is what is she saying, and what should I do. I do love her, and I do want to be with her, but I'm still deciding whether its just sexual love or real love.
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reader, binhquangdao  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 She needs space she's confused and stressed out and she want's to test the water you need to get away form her to prevent yourself from getting hurt. Give her what she wants space, don't call her, don't text her let her do whatever she wants if she dont' realized what she losted then move on dont' sit around waiting for her you gonna get hurt. My ex tolded me the same thing now sh'es dating somebody else. Move on man.
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