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writes:One of my friends (13 y/o girl) is convinced that a 23 year old man she met over an online game is in love with her. I have done everything I can to try and convince her that this is not right. We live in different countries, and they live in different states. He told her that if she wanted he would fly to her city. Anybody have any suggestion of words that might open her eyes? She said that no guy would fly across states to have sex with a 13 year old girl.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (4 August 2007):
 Hi there babes,
Your friend is young and very impressionable and as you are aware there are loads of dirty old men out there, so who is to say he is 23 years old, the internet is a big wide world for these preditors to prey on the young and have many ways of finding out information about the person they are mailing.....
You are so so right to be worried, but she obviously is impressed at this age thinking a 23 year old man is interested in her so ti be honest babes, tell her parents, you would never forgive yourself if you didn 't and something bad happened to her wouldn't you????/
She should be so grateful she has such a caring friend as you.....
Good luck and remember tell her parents about this,
Love Donna xx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (4 August 2007):
 You have every right to be concerned about her. She maybe dizzy on the flattery of thinking an older man is in love with her. However, the reality is that her 23 year old acquaintance is at best a paedophile and at worst a complete psychopath (...although many would argue there is little difference between the two). He maybe 63 not 23, and she knows absolutely nothing about his past. It is not normal for a 23 year old to have such an interest in a young girl. I just wonder where her parents factor in all this...if they don't know then perhaps you are duty bound to tell them. It maybe a betrayal of trust but her safety is more important.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (4 August 2007):
 You will have to tell your friend that the internet can be a wonderful and dangerous place, and that she should really, really stop talking to this man now.
Its not normal for a 23 year old man to fly to a different state to see a 13 year old girl.
Also yes its very possible that he is coming for sex and its happened before and its never good.
You may have to tell her over and over until she gets the message that this man is trouble.
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reader, kenny +, writes (4 August 2007):
 The whole problem with people we chat to over the internet is we never know who we are we are talking to, and invariably people are not who they say they are. I think you have got to bring it home to her the consequences of what could happen if she did meet this guy.
Tell her it is not normal for a 23 year old guy to travel across state to meet a 13 year old child, and yes he may very well just be coming across for sex.
Open her eyes to the fact that the consequences could be disasterous.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2007): Hunny
You just have to do your very best to convince her this is wrong, He may be lying about anything he could be a real nasty dirty peice of work, say anything you can to get it through to her how dangerous this could be for her..
Thats all you can do, the internet is good for some things but like everything else in our world today it is very bad for others, be there and do your best as a friend as you are a very caring one....
TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, RebeccaT +, writes (4 August 2007):
If he was younger than would say that you should leave her alone but i the circumstances the only thing you can do is tell her maybe youve seen a story on tv about it.Ive had a boyfriend over the net before but he 14 a lot younger than hurs. Its scarry because you dont knoiw what they look like and they could be a girl you just dont know.They cpuld be going out with someone else behind your back and there s a hight possibility that they could e a perve.When they break up with you it breaks you heart because you havnt even met them yet.trust be youll be bubbled up at first but youll stary=t to feel insucure.LET HER READ THIS BECAUSE I SWEAR ON MY LIFE THAT I HAVE HAD AN NONLINE BF TO.hOPE YOU LIKE MY ADVICE.WHOEVER YOU ARE DONT DO IT YOUL GET YOUR HEART BROKEN LIKE I DID.
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