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writes:hi. My boyfriend and i broke up after 11 months together. He is going away for almost 3 months and said he didnt think things would work, that he hates himself for not making me happy and he thinks breaking up is the best option. He wont tell me he doesnt love me anymore though and he kept telling me how much he loved me the night before we broke up! After he broke up with me he sat with me for a few hours and hugged me and kissed me on the cheek and cried because he was really upset. He said it wasnt guilt. He says he wants to be friends and talk but I think I need to get over him? It hurts that he doesnt want me to be his gf anymore. I really love him and I think he loves me too but it would be unhealthy to wait for him when his feelings might change when he is away?Any thoughts as to what I should do would be much appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks a lot. thats what everyone says. its just really hard to do atm because weve been friends for years and he was my first love and he still wants to talk and i just didnt see it happening. wed talked about it three days before and he seemed alright to just be casual and keep in touch when he was away. but then i got upset when he couldnt come see me before he left and he changed his mind. i dont want to get over him, i would be friends like he wants but i couldnt deal with him dating anyone else. maybe him being away will make it easier? but it will be really hard when he comes back.
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reader, showoff201  +, writes (25 June 2010):
I think that you should move on!
("you never know what you have til its gone")
("absence make the heart grow fonder")
("you dont miss the water til the well runs dry")
("If you love something you have to let it go")
Try your darn hardest to get him off your mind because thats the only way he'll realize his mistake!!
Only time will tell! Things really do happen for a reason and
there are times when you have to fight for love but this fight isnt yours! Its his!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 June 2010):
Yes, you need to get over him. He has been realistic here. He's a young man and he's going away. Chances are his feelings will change. I think the time has come to say goodbye and move on. Waiting around will do nothing but hurt you.
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