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writes:My lover's wife and I have become very close. Somehow we have accepted this shared relationship. I told her I want children (I am the younger of the two) and she told me that I should move in. It will be better for the three of us and the babies.We share so much, feel the same way about most issues, have similar views on family and children, we are two women who have become sole mates.Should we just all live together or should we keep separate homes?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010): IN your country, second marriage can be recognized if first wife give a consent written for the same. i feel it is possible. At least in India this is way it can be done in HINDU religion - even though it is very rarely found
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reader, pj66 +, writes (29 May 2010):
pj66 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your comments.
It is my lover's wife who suggested that we all live together and stop pretending. I am so exited about it, and so is he. We share so much together already, we just live in different houses. We spend Christmas and Thanksgiving together.
The house is quite big enough, it has two master bedrooms. I just need to accept that I am moving in to her house, and that I will respect it and respect our space, adapt to her home style, which I love anyway. It is a perfect home to raise children.
The legal issue is an issue. In this country you can't recognize two wives at once. I understand that. We have talked about me just changing my name, which I want to do.
Not to sound naive, but I trust him and her, and they trust me. I suppose in all marriages (and this to us is a marriage), at the bottom of it all is trust. Actually, in conversations we refer to each other as husband and wife and wife. People just assume what they want to assume.
Thanks for your comments,
PJ
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reader, YouWish +, writes (28 May 2010):
 Interesting! Well, it wouldn't be a conventional relationship, that's for sure. If all three of you are 110% for the arrangement, why not give it a try.
There are some long term possible snags in the proposition. What if you (or your soul mate) become overly possessive and jealous over the man? I would definitely wait to see if the arrangement fits before becoming pregnant. Also, what is the legal/financial situation? You'll want to keep yourself protected, since you are not married to the guy.
Whose idea was this for the threesome? Usually the wife isn't so accepting of a mistress.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2010): I think you should move in! If your close why not share that bond together with him, I'm
sure it will be enjoyable for you all!! But watch out because one of you could begin to feel like a 3rd wheel
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 May 2010):
 There are pro's and con's and there are cases where the three of them can live together peacefully.
You may want to give it a try and find out if it suits you .If the three of you can agree, I do not see why you should not live together.
Good Luck!
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