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writes: Dear Cupid, I'm 22 years old and dating a 40 year old man who lives with another woman. We've been dating for a little over a year and things are very serious. I'm madly in love with him, and I believe he loves me, but not enough to leave home. I don't really pressure him about leaving. I'm just tired of sneeking around. I even offered to share him if she could handle it, but he says she too jealous. I don't know what to do. I think about leaving, but I'd miss him so much I think I'd go into a state of depression. Should I continue to be patient or try another tactic. Please give me any advice that could possible helpful. I'm desperate for an answer!P.S. the other woman is 30 and they've been together about 8 years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): just wondering you dont mention if he has children or not
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): hi girl i know how u are feeling and i think my situation is still worst than yours.my man is seing two other woman and i meet him that way i fell deeply in love and now i can't handle it.people can tell u to leave but its not as easy as it seems.all i can tell u is to try to let go but in small steps don't just leave cause is hurts like hell.im starting to hang out and meet new people and while im still with him im slowly losing interest.i hope to end it totally one day.men will always be men and not all are bad but not all are good either. god bless
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): Hi:
Your 40 year old is not leaving the woman he lives with. Men tend to want their cake and eat it too. He has the best of both worlds. You are young and in love, but need to ask yourself if you deserve better than being someone's #2. Most women have been thru this scenario, but keep in mind when a man claims to love 2 women, someone looses out. I hope this helps. Find you someone who can put you first. Even if he leaves her and comes to you, he will do to you what he has done to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): Hi:
Your 40 year old is not leaving the woman he lives with. Men tend to want their cake and eat it too. He has the best of both worlds. You are young and in love, but need to ask yourself if you deserve better thasn being someon's #2. Most women have been thru this scenario, but keep in mind when a man claims to love 2 women, someone looses out. I hope this helps. Find you someone who can put you first. Even if he leaves her and comes to you, he will do to you what he has done to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2005): hi i am talking to a man that is 47 years old and he is married but he says that he hate her but he still live with her in the same house.But the bigger picture here is don't get your self to worked up over the whole thing that just causes a lot stress espesially at your age.If it helps you could talk to somebody else too and yall could just be friends with benefits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2005): I'm in the same situation as you are. As much as I'd like to believe that I will be with him, I know that he will never, ever leave her since he hasn't in the year we've been fooling around. In addition, I know if he did ever leave her that he will cheat on me too.It hurts like hell, but there is no hope here- no matter how special you are, he is, or your relationship/love is. How could you be with him and trust him after all he has done to his current girlfriend and all the pain he has caused you?Run like hell, girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2005): I was in the same situation, the best thing for you to do is break it off now before it gets any worse he will probably never leave her. Do you really like being second best? No woman deserves that, you need a man full time. You will find someone else, I was the other one to I left him 5 years ago now I'm more in love with a guy thats only mine and we're getting married... The only one getting hurt is you! Don't take it no more.
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A reader, Karen, writes (6 January 2005): Do yourself a favour and dump this guy, before you get really hurt, and trust me he will hurt you. He is 40 and all you are is a huge ego boost to him, he is probably bragging to his mates that he has someone as young as you. I feel sorry for this woman he lives with to be landed with this no good cheat.I only hope she discovers his cheating ways and dumps him like he deserves. Do you really want to be with a guy who so readily cheats on his live in girlfriend, if he was with you, he would do the same.He is never going to leave her, becaause he would have done it already, so really, how serious can this relationhip be, it might be to you, but it clearly isnt to him.Finish with this guy, go out and have some fun, and meet someone who is willing to be with you and only you, that is what you deserve.Good luck
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A reader, Tish, writes (3 January 2005): Ok, let me get this right - you are 22, he is 40 and has a women? First off, there will be several times in your life that your in love, or you think your in love. Don't waist your youth, in 10 - 15 years, your boobs and ass will be sagging. You could go to the bar tonight with your girlfriends and drink free all night without commitment. Guys will do anything for the attention of a young sexy girl. And second, if he hasn't left the other woman already-he won't. Don't ever share your man with another woman. I say kick his ass to the curb and go shopping for a new man!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2005): If he hasn't left her yet, he never will. Even if he keeps telling you he will, you still just need to move on with your life. Their is someone out their for you who will be good to you. He could even be around you now, you just can't see that he is there waiting for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2005): honey , at your age you do not really know what the hell love is. love is bad night of worry about money,kids, car broken, water pipe leaks, damn roof leaks and will i still have a job tomorrow. your little thing you have with this person is really nothing compared to the history they have. besides you only know what he tells you so he can get into your cute little body . grow up and blow him off and find your own man
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