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female
age
36-40,
*ihan
writes:Hi thereI met this guy in a chatroom. When we first started things were cool. Most days I couldn't wait for him to log on. He always told me the he missed me so we exchanged contact numbers and pics. He even said that I was beautiful. We got a bit personal. We used to phone each other more than 3 times a day. I told him things about my past but when I asked him, he said he doesn't wanna talk about it and that he'd tell me when we actually meet. So we set a day, place and time. The Saturday when we finally met he was the same guy I used to chat to. The same personality and everything. He never told me anything about himself though. Sunday things were still great. The Monday came and he never called, never chatted. He just kept to himself not saying a word. I sent him messages yet no reply. Tuesday he greeted. I asked him where he'd been and he said that he was busy studying and his phone was off. I told him I missed him and he said that he doesn't want a relationship. Not now, not ever. I told him that I'm going on lunch with a colleague of mine. He got upset and said goodbye. Today he still hasn't said a word to me. Should I forget about him and move on with my life or should I wait til he is done with his studies?
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reader, Mistify +, writes (14 November 2007):
 Hi there.
Tuff situation, sorry to hear about it.
When guys say that they don't EVER want a relationship, then that is usually exactly what they mean.
You seem like such a nice person, and it seems that he is taking advantage of that.
If you want to stay friends with this guy, then send him a message. Tell him that you've taken in his point, and if he still wants to be chat friends - because you enjoy it so much.
If the answer is yes ,then go for it, but if he says he's not sure, then just move on.
Actually, JUST move on in any case. You deserve somebody who will treat you well, and not just ignore you.
I've met a stack of people on the internet, including my current boyfriend. So many times i would meet someone in real life, and then all of a sudden things turn sour, and they just fade away.
HE is looking for a relationship - that is why he is in the chatroom.
He just doesn't want it with you.
If he can't appreciate you, then best you move on, and don't look back.
You deserve WAY better.
Also - don't give up on the chat room...
After a year of internet dating, i finally met the man of my dreams...
We've been together for a year and a half now, and are also living together.
Good luck girl.
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